Are attractive people less approachable?

I have problems talking to attractive girls because I think they are too good for me, so I basically don't even notice them and don't look at them. I also have some own experience with this: I think I've become better looking compared with the past, but for some reason in the past girls often approached me and talked to me, though I was too shy to answer them. Now nobody approaches me, they just stare while I am not looking and turn away when I notice them. For some reason they become less shy if I make a fault and show my real nature, maybe that lowers me in their eyes and makes me look more approachable. Is it really true or just a coincidence?

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  • It's complicated/it depends/other
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Most Helpful Girl

  • While I u detstanda you're intimidated, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. If you're confident and believe beautiful women like you, you're more likely to attract one.

    Men would literally reject me because they thought I was too beautiful to like them. When i met my boyfriend, I didn't find him that attractive at first, but he always says he dates attractive women and he believes that's attainable for him. Lo and behold he grew on me... It's all about attitude.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Yes absolutely. They can choose to date whoever they want. Why would they choose an average guy? No matter how imperfect attractive girls are, they still insist they are perfect because almost every guy has reminded them of that.

    Do whatever it takes to kill your attraction towards attractive females. Get all those hormones out. You are MUCH better off dating women that are less attractive. They save you money and headache. Also, you will stop having that feeling that the attractive women will never give you the time of day. You will be free from that.

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What Girls Said 6

  • I have the same problem. I catch people staring, buy they rarely approach me. I usually have to do the approaching or do something silly, so people know that I am not stuck up.

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  • Yes they are. I know I don't go for hot guys because they can do better lol

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  • I try not to put too much emphasis on looks coz at the end of the day, we're all human.

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    • 2mo

      You are pretty cute, so I think great guys will approach you themselves. I am sometimes told to be cute but not hot. Cute girls=hot girls, but that doesn't work for males. So I don't think I have a chance with a really cute girl because she can get a better guy.

  • yea happens to me

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  • No it's people who have charism who are less approachable

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  • YES, so many hot men on my college campus but I assume their asses are snatched up by a blonde bimbo.

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What Guys Said 19

  • "I have problems talking to attractive girls because I think they are too good for me" Haha they're the only ones that can say that. :P
    "they just stare while I am not looking and turn away when I notice them." They're shy too.
    "For some reason they become less shy if I make a fault and show my real nature" They might find it funny if you do or say something silly. They might find it interesting if they like what they hear from you.
    Oh and you look like a way better match than the average unserious horny player, remember that.

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  • Everyone thinks this, but attractive people probably get approached a lot less than you think for the exact reason you stated. My job revolves around working with models and I can tell you first hand gorgeous girls are the same as any other. They aren't nearly as judgmental as you think and are usually really god damn hilarious.

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  • No, I've actually found that some of the prettiest girls are also some of the sweetest and friendliest out there. Talk to them and give them a chance. Looks have nothing to do with temperament. Some average girls are stuck up bitches, and some gorgeous girls are real sweethearts. I'm glad I'm one of the few guys who's found this out, because I'm one of the few guys who doesn't put hot girls on a pedestal.

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    • 2mo

      They can get a better guy than me.

    • 2mo

      Don't think that way. There's always someone 'better,' but everyone has something to offer. Girls respect and feel attraction for guys who respect and value themselves.

  • The more and more I have been around and talked to attractive girls, the more that I realized that they are not all that special.

    You're putting WAY too much stock into their looks, bro. They are all flawed humans like you and I!

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  • Generally yes, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that, not everyone finds the same person attractive and guys with more confidence tend to do better with girls

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  • It depends...
    Cute/beautiful girls seem approachable but hot girls tends to give off more of a bitchy and stuck up vibe.

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  • Everybody who's ever been mean to me in any way has been more attractive than me. But I've also known a very few people who were very attractive and didn't have a mean bone in their body. But yes, in general, the prettier you are, the more vicious and cruel I expect you to be.

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  • well I've never had any problem talking to attractive people, the vast majority of my friends are really attractive.

    But it doesn't surprise me.

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  • Yes, they have a lot of options and they know it. Also they're more quick to think you only want to talk to them because you find them attractive.

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  • Yes but only if you're a guy trying to approach a attractive woman. Women are so beautiful yet men aren't beautiful. So I think women might find it easier to approach a guy.

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  • nahh my issue is very attractive people
    usually lack knowledge so i keep my distance
    cause they get what they want through there looks whether girl or guy

    other people get nothing through there looks

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  • Just don't think about it mate and get out there

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  • I used to have that problem. Then I got a little older and no longer give a shit.

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  • No, not to me I've approached attractive girls before actually when out for a couple months lol.

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  • thats false

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  • I do believe it.

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  • not really, only losers do.

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  • Generally false, although can be true in certain cases.

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  • It's complicated/it depends/other

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