I'm 20 and still living with my parents and my parents won't allow me to meet up with guys that I'm interested in on Tinder so as a result I sit at home when I should be meeting up and socializing with guys that I'm interested. I even video chat with them before hand and I tell my parents about it and they still won't let me meet up with them. A lot of my friends my age met their boyfriends on Tinder and other online dating sites because their parents let them meet up with them but my parents just won't allow me to meet up with guys that I meet online so they are ruining my chances of being in a relationship with these guys that I meet online My parents are also ruining my chances of me having fun and doing what ever I want because they won't let me meet up with guys on Tinder. The only way my parents would allow me to meet up with a guy is if I meet them through friends, work or anywhere in person. I also really want to meet up with guys that I meet online because I want to see what their personality is like in real life and want to have conversations and go out to lunch and dinner with them to get to know them better but my parents would not allow me. How can I convince my parents that I want to meet up with guys that I met on an online dating website?
Er... you're twenty years old. You don't need permission.
Do what teenagers have been doing since dating was a thing. Lie. Tell them you're going to meet a friend for coffee. Meet a dude instead. Tell them that you met the dude while you were out getting coffee.
If you're morally opposed to lying, then don't lie. Have a girlfriend go with you, not to be part of your date, but to hang around for a few in the background while you meet the guy and make sure he's not a serial killer. Then tell your parents you met him there.
You're right. Your parents are acting unfairly. I met my boyfriend through Tinder and he's the love of my life, going strong 9 months already. If I was never allowed to meet guys from there in person, I would never have met him which is actually really a sad idea. Your parents need to understand you're an adult and that online dating is a thing. It's a great means of meeting new guys especially if your everyday life doesn't give you many chances to meet guys. You'll have to tell your parents that you are miserable and lonely and wish to find guys to date. Maybe also remind them of how many people have found love that way.
because they are aware of your scenario at home, they don't like it. they don't want you hurt. The flip side to this is by not getting exposure, you are at risk of picking someone who is not good for you because you lack experience.
When people hear the word tinder... they think... hookup site... so that is negative and probably why they object. maybe not your intent, but who knows the intent of the other guys. they don't want you used, heart broken, etc..
I think it is better to meet people in person in general so I'd do that. Or I'd move out and do what you want.
I'm saying no, it is their house and their rules. you pay the Mortgage or rent, it is your house and your rules.
Why are you telling your parents about your Tinder dates to begin with? Do you tell them EVERYTHING? Damn, my parents don't get to know about the girls I a with unless I feel like they need to know because the r/s is getting serious then and only then, but c'mon a Tinder date? They don't need to know.
You are 20 years old. You are an adult living under the roof of your parents. That means their rules apply to everyone in that house. Are they wrong for keeping you from meeting strangers online? No. When you get your own job, your own house, your own car, your own life without the help of mommy and daddy then you can do whatever you want. If any of these Tinder smurffs were so interested in dating you, then they would make an attempt to meet your parents and win their approval. But guys don't do that these days because anything that requires effort is not a trait of the Millennial.
Maybe because tinder is a hook up website rather than a dating website really isn't it? How about just telling them you are going to meet a friend from work something. I mean how would they know? You're an adult and as long as you have no intention of bringing the men back to your parents house to get jiggy... then its none of their buisness. Just be smart about things. Try to meet during the day, in a public place always untill you get to know the person.
Find a bit of independence. Go, anyway. At 20 you're parents don't "let" you do anything. The fact they are allowing you to live with them doesn't give them the right to lord that over you.. and if they keep doing it I would say it's time you make other arrangements.