I'm 24, and the girl I just started dating is 17 (yes, it's legal). I told two of my female friends about her, and they both acted somewhat derisive when they're usually very supportive of me. As in, I told them about how I'd really fallen for this new girl, and when I told then her age, they tried to tell me how bad of an idea it is for me to be with her.
I truly adore this girl, but apparently I've hit some kind of nerve with my female friends. The thing is, girls my own age want to date older guys. They look at me as leftovers, whereas younger girls see me as a desirable guy. So as I see it, fair is fair. Girls my age can date older guys, and I can date younger girls.
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I don't know of any women in my neck of the woods who would get upset over that. It's actually the norm around here. My dad is 7 years older than my mother. My niece's husband is 6 years older than her.
There's a couple who use to run a gas station around here, happiest marriage I've ever seen, and he's a good 18 years older than her. No one bats an eye. In fact, they're considered pillars of the community. Most men are 3 - 7 years older than their wives unless they were high school or college sweethearts, and above 7 years doesn't turn any heads as long as the woman was 18 before they went on their first unchaperoned date.
What bothers me is that the reverse is frowned upon. When I was 13 I was dating 18 year olds and as long we were closely chaperoned (i. e. my parents or brothers had to be standing right there, watching us talk in the front yard from the living room window was considered too far out of sight) no one said a thing. When I turned 23 I kept the same age gap only I was the older of the two and, despite both of us being adults, people acted like I was dating a little boy.
In my entire life I've never dated a man over the age of 25 and if my boyfriend, who is 23, and I want to avoid stares and behind the back remarks we can't even hold hands or correct someone who assumes I'm his older sister or aunt.
But it doesn't seem to matter for same sex couples. My first girlfriend was older than my mother. The people who didn't accept us took issue with us being a same sex couple. None of them said anything about the age, and no one who accepted us said anything about the age.
My last girlfriend was young enough for me to have given birth to (months before high school graduation, but still), in fact she graduated only two years ahead of a former classmate's son, and it was the same thing. If they didn't accept us it was because we were both women. If they did accept us age didn't factor in.
So it doesn't bother the women around here, but it bothers both sexes if the woman is significantly older than the man.1