I went out with this guy, we had a good time together, he tried to kiss me several times but I did not know him well so I avoided the kisses.
In the end when he left he had an angry face expression, and did not reply to my text in which I apologized for the whole situation explaining that I like to take things slow.
Did I offend him somehow?
Should I have kissed him?
Most Helpful Guy
You followed your own instincts in this incident; therefore, what you did was not necessarily wrong, despite how the guy might have felt about you avoiding him every time he attempted to kiss you. I personally don’t feel kissing on the first date is wrong, so long as both individuals are ready to take it to that part of their relationship. You didn’t feel that strongly or confident in the guy yet and didn’t want to be kissing on the first day. That’s your choice, again, nothing wrong with that choice, and if the guy takes issue with it, then that’s his choice as well.
I firmly believe life is too short to do anything less than follow our heart, trust in our instincts, and make those choices which are going to make us the happiest and to do anything less is pure folly. Be who you want to be, act as you feel is the best course of action, and if something takes exception to that, then that’s on them and not your fault. If they care about you then they’ll respect your choices, even if it is to take things slower than they’d prefer, and if they don’t then they are not deserving of you or your affections. That’s my bottom line.0
Most Helpful Girl
Bad bad idea. It actually sends the guy a subconscious message that you kiss easily. Therefore making him think you'd kiss any guy, therefore making him not truly trust you. The first kiss in a relationship shouldn't come if you don't truly know the person yet. Don't just let your guard down that fast. Be wise. It's never a good idea to kiss on a first date. That's what society encourages, yet, society is full of b. s. What really matters is you, and you need to really know the guy you're dating before you just kiss him or he kiss you. Even if you do know each other, you'd need to know him better in a relationship way. It just shows better self respect and shows him that he needs to earn your love and you need to really earn his. Let the fire grow, then the kiss will come. Besides, it's more romantic that way anyway. Just don't kiss the person in the heat of the moment straight away. :) Believe me, I'm married and I have 9 sisters all over 17 years old and I've witnessed first hand the regret of first-date-kisses. If you give a guy a kiss too fast, he'll want more and he'll think that he can just kiss you whenever he wants, even if he doesn't love you. That's not good. Let the kiss emerge from the relationship ;)0