My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year and attend the same university near our hometown. He has never had a girlfriend throughout high school and was very shy when it came to talking to girls. Last summer, we were "talking" and we would hangout a lot and flirt. Once summer was over we became more serious and started dating. I later found out that he was not only talking to me but to two other girls during summer (Whom attend a university farther away) I read their messages between each other and he would invite them for movie nights, and hangout with them. I was so hurt because I thought I was the only girl in he picture and the only girl he wanted to talk too. It seemed like I was almost a back up and it only worked out because the girls left back to school and I attended the same school he did. Although it's a year later, I can't seem to brush it off. I want to know what he was thinking or if he likes me more or less than the other girls? Do you think he settled and maybe still curious about the other girls who got away?
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For one, why did you read his messages? Did he offer to let you read his messages? Or did you ask? Or did you do it without asking?
For two, why do you feel hurt by them being "in the picture" at the time? Guys aren't allowed to have friends that are girls? What's wrong with inviting them over for movie nights? Is there any evidence it was more than just hanging out?
How is your self esteem? To me it sounds unreasonable for you to worry about it0
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