So here's a complicated one for y'all.
I don't understand this. Every relationship I've ever had has ended because of my apparent issues. (Clingy, Annoying, Trust Issues (New*), Needy)
*sidenote: Which is ironic about the trust issues because I used to be too trusting now i'm not trusting enough due to my abusive ex. I. e. "Boyfriend" gave me his facebook and I check his messages. Wrong I know but I was scared of getting cheated on.
Back on track, I had went so far as to even WARN the guy what he was getting into, down to every last detail. And he had warned me. I had begged and pleaded for 2 whole hours telling him that he needs to understand what he was getting into.
Now fast forward to present tense. We are on a very long break ( a month) so he can "mentally prepare himself" for my " emotional issues".
What should I do? Where did I go wrong?
Most Helpful Guy
Auuuum you can't stop getting into relationships and fix yourself obviously. You seem to know your mistakes but do nothing to correct them. It's like you want a guy to accept that this how you are. No ma'am that ain't how relationships is. So cut the " when you get know me here's wha your in for." Act and take time to work on it. Ya feel meh?3
Most Helpful Girl
Your problem is that instead of working on your problems, you told him "this is who I *am* and what you're going to have to deal with". You gave him a long list of reasons as to why he *shouldn't* be with you, basically. He got scared, and rightfully so.
You shouldn't get into a relationship when you're clearly not ready for one. You begging and pleading for 2 hours just adds to you being clingy, needy and annoying. And the fact that you had to do it also shows you have trust issues, you don't trust that he realizes what he's getting himself into and it seems more like you're trying to drive him off, not inform him of your issues.
Take this month to do some intense self-reflecting. Get help, maybe find a therapist. Work on yourself, your confidence, your feelings of self-worth. Learn how to be independent. A month is not a lot of time so don't expect to do a complete 180° change. But you can take some baby steps in the right direction, at the very least. If at the end of the month you feel like you haven't gotten anywhere, then getting into a relationship with this guy is not a good idea. Work on yourself before getting into anything.3