Serious questions, because reading stuff on forums, you'd think girls have nothing against shy guys, some even call them cute. Basically on paper, shy guys dont look so bad.
However this doesn't reflect on the real world a bit. Think about what it means when a guy is shy, it means he cannot flirt with you, make you laugh (at least not in the beginning) or build any kind of sexual tension.
Girls (and guys, but now I am jus talking about girls) are easily manipulated. They'll say they want one thing, but then a player will come up to them, talk to them in a flirtatious, sexual manner, make them laugh and build attraction, and the girls themselves can't even control it. I've seen some really ugly guys get gorgeous girls by manipulating them in this manner, they just make the girl laugh like an idiot and she's at their mercy. This is something thats natural for outgoing guys but pretty much near impossible for shy guys.
And where I live I'd say about 95% of guys are quite outgoing, when you're shy you're sort of left out.
And girls just find you extremely boring because again, when you barely know the girl, you're incapable of flirting and making her laugh and all that.
So I think girls need to think again when some claim they like shy guys, do you really?
Most Helpful Girl
I don't like shy guys. Even if he's the most attractive guy in the world, if he's shy I won't like him.
"They'll say they want one thing, but then a player will come up to them, talk to them in a flirtatious, sexual manner, make them laugh and build attraction, and the girls themselves can't even control it." - this is exactly what gets girls. It's in our nature, we fall for confident and funny guys, it's a tale as old as time. And it's nothing to be sorry for, it's been like this forever it's a human nature. Same as looks are for guys, the most attractive girl is gonna be picked the most.
"Girls fall for what they hear, guys fall for what they see." - this is one fat truth.2
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Most Helpful Guy
Some girls lie about this (often without realizing it themselves), but you have to understand there's a difference between being shy and socially awkward/inept. A "shy" guy won't always have a joke ready, doesn't dominate the room and won't approach girls without an excuse, etc... but he can carry a normal conversation and make her laugh once he's comfortable. Guys on the internet who call themselves "shy" are like fat girls calling themselves "curvy"...1