OK. So, I'm dating this guy. We've been out twice, and are complete opposites. He's confident and rests in his own skin. I, on the other hand, am shy, inexperienced and quite intimidated by his effect on me.
I've never been this into a guy, and have always been the one to take things slow. Now, it seems the roles are reversed. He gives me plenty of hints, calling me sweet things, telling me he misses me, and yet, he doesn't make a move! I melt just by the thought of him. He's not the type to play girls (from what I can tell), and seems genuine. What's going on?
I really don't think I'm bold enough to make a first move, especially as he is not the type to sit around and wait. He wants something, he goes for it. He applies that to everything in his life. Except, it would seem, me. He is not spontaneous per se, but he's not an "over-thinker" either. He's very good at reading people, perhaps he picks up on my nervousness around him and misinterprets it?
I don't want to come off as clingy at all, therefore, I like to let him take lead. It just frustrates me, not knowing where we stand. I am leaving for 5 weeks, and I've wondered if he holds back because he's concerned about the distance? The thing is, we've been talking for months. I wish he would just tell me how he feels. Can I ask? Do guys like it straightforward? Gosh, I'm so confused.
Sorry if this was too long. I really hope you have a few tips for how to handle this type of situation. xx
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I think he definitely wants to make a move. He must really like you quite a lot, and he's not making a move because he is unsure if you will be offended by him making a move. He doesn't want to scare you away. You must be giving off vibes that you like to take things really super slow. If he's waiting this long to make a move yet he is still involved with you like this, then yea, he likes you a lot.
You better hurry up and give some hints or something! lol. You can tell him, you could kiss him, I don't know, do something! I've dated shy girls before. I'm awful at the initial stages of attraction. But once me and a girl are like... netflix and chillin, I know when to make my move because I'm shy, I dated shy girls, I just understand what it's like. Your guy, he's probably not used to shy girls, he has no idea how fast to go because you are super hard to read. Give him some damn obvious clue girl cmon!1