I personally gave up on dating a few days ago because no guy wants to date me for some reason, they only want hookups. They tell me I'm atrrractjve and pretend to like me but then later on after I catch feelings for them they end up saying they just want hookups. And honestly I'm done with being hurt and all that bs and lies so I'm completely done with "serious"dating. And no I don't hookup with those guys either, I'm actually a virgin. My friends would describe me as nice, friendly, outgoing, caring. loyal, understanding and a overall chill strong independent person. I do plan on being really successful career wise in the future. I'm currently in college for business and I have a part time job. What I want from a guy is someone who is nice, loyal, caring and who actually likes me for me and not just my "looks". I'm also not a gold digger or anything I NEVER want a guy to pay for any of my stuff or I wouldn't expect a guy to pay for dates, I wouldn't expect him to buy me anything either. He could also have his freedom and I won't turn out to be "crazy" and over obsessive or clingy. If he wants to hangout with his friends that are guys or girls that's fine with me because I would trust him completely. But anyways I give up on dating and will probably be single forever
Anyone else give up on dating?
What Guys Said 18
That aligns with me really well (except I'm 50, like too old and stuff). but what you described is me, and a certain personality type. Not easy to find.
Look for "happy go lucky" type person, go to church, maybe introverted, technical skills (like computer dude). I've seen these guys around, they exist. Note that church is not a guarantee of character traits, you have to get to know them.
Dating is hard, it is a tough environment now, probably worse than ever because it is hard to find what you want. Eharmony was the best online dating site... few matches but you get closer to what you are looking for. Church, maybe you have a chance there. my brother found his awsome wife on Match... I had no luck there only torture.
I found a great gal on GAG, have found them on online dating before in the past. I think you just live your life and you throw out the junk and keep looking for what you want. if you close off, then you may miss them like I believe I did at times. It's hard to do that when your hopes go high.
Maybe you need to start a club, a dating business, or a t-shirt to weed out the idiots. Also, I'd probably try to date a little older, but be open if you find a quality guy. There are some quality guys on this site... open your eyes girly and see if any are in your area.
I think you're being a little dramatic. The kind of guy you're looking for does exist out there. He's just surrounded in a sea of guys who are there for sex only. The kind of guys you like are having similar issues finding the right girl. Go on dates before you get too emotionally invested. Let them know right away that you're looking for a long term committed relationship.1
Awe, I'm so sad to hear you're giving up. I would say I basically fit your description of what you want in a guy (actually I might be too romantic and clingy for your liking), and I'm sure there are many other guys like that as well. But I am sad, because it sounds like we lost a good one 😔1
Actually, I've never really dated much at all, mostly in high school or in my late teens. Most of the girls I had relations with after high school were either hook-ups that turned into girlfriends or were just hook-ups.1
Hey, you and I both are fed up with the opposite gender's shit. isn't that funny?1
This is why I don't date just to date or have a relationship just to say I have one.
You found like a wonderful gal!😀1
Yep, a long time ago.1
Always darkest before dawn. There were times I felt the same way.
This probably sounds dumb as hell considering where you are in the process right now, but someone will come along when you least expect it.2
I'll keep dating, cheers.1
Yup Im just focusing on work, saving my money and weights... NOTHING ELSE MATTERS...1
tru tru like my sit too imma good guy but tired of being hurt used1
I haven't given up, but I need to figure myself out at what I truly want.
Most recently I got used and ditched by a girl who rebounded me that I ended up liking a lot. Even though I knew she just got out of a LTR after wed had our first date, I decided to be cautious and take it very slow and yet I still got screwed over. This was a woman I clicked with in many ways.
I think dating is tough nowadays especially with all the mind games, online dating sites/apps, etc to find what you want. Sometimes when you think you found the person you want, they're gone the next day.1
What Girls Said 7
I'm the same way, and I honestly did give up on dating until a couple of months ago my friend introduced me to her friend and yes I became friends with him and all of a sudden it just happened. We have been together for 4 months now and so far everything is going great and he knows I'm a virgin and he isn't pressuring me yet ( I say " yet " because things might change) I don't think you will be single forever. I thought so to about myself because all of the guys I met seemed the same " they just want sex " but I know you will finally find the one.1
I'm kinda in the same position you are right now. I've been crushing on a guy for a while. I'm scared to talk to him because I fear of him just wanting to hook up & nothing else. It sucks for the guys that are actually nice that they don't run into a good girl. But just keep doing what you're doing, focusing on your career & future! Then if you find a guy later down the road, score! If not that's okay, just don't give up on love too much. You'll find someone oneday (:2
I've always preferred hookups to dating! I gave up on dating a long time ago.2
I kinda know how you feel. I've never dated anyone, but I highly doubt I'll ever get to experience that since I'm too ugly and unlikeable.1
Yes, for now. All my relationships have failed . It's too difficult to maintain relationships, they never seem to last 😪1
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