so my boyfriend has this friend (girl) who he's really close to. and they talk on calls a lot and stuff. they've known each other for longer than him and i did. and like he used to tell me that he's very annoyed with her boyfriend because her boyfriend will always find trouble with my boyfriend for being too close to his girlfriend. IM SORRY IF THIS IS COMPLICATEd. but yes that boyfriend wld always text my boyfriend to get away from his girlfriend and he'll get really annoyed. and so today he texted me that he's really happy cuz that girl's boyfriend just got dumped by her. and now im getting really paranoid cos does this mean that he'll go to her? please help
My boyfriend is happy that his friend broke up with her boyfriend?
What Guys Said 11
people come on let's not be that paranoid.
And i'm not really talking about OP here, but about the guy saying "no guy can be just friends with a girl". I feel sorry for the girlfriend you will have. Hopefully there will be none. Because you will turn into that bitch of a boyfriend trying to put a collar on your girlfriend and keep her in the house all day.
if we take this conversation to extreme, yes there would be a lot of people fucking people, but guess what, the perfect circumstances for that to happen are reeeally low.
If you watch this forum carefully there are lots of people that cannot get a gf/bf or cannot get laid at all because reasons.
So even if these people WANT to and are single (so no strings), even if they TRY to, they CANNOT! Why? because it's not only about their will, it's about finding someone else willing to do so with them.
I honestly don't believe he would have shared that with you. He wouldn't have texted you saying how glad he is about his friend breaking up IF he had an interest in her.
He would have kept his joy to himself if he was involved in this story in a different way.
Don't get paranoid. Life sucks that's all I can say. I've seen some nasty behavior. But it wouldn't get you anywhere to feel threatened about everything.
Also you mentioned that he knows her from well before getting with you. I believe he would have tried getting with her if interested instead of dating and wasting time to know you.0
"does this mean that he'll go to her?" No. If they're good friends they're good friends. That's it. Well, the outcome depends on how loyal a boyfriend he is. But it does not necessarily implies that he'll be cheating. It's a mere possibility.
"guys im just afraid that without her boyfriend as a barrier anymore, they wld be able to talk more often and he might develop a romantic interest for her. " Although your fears may be justified, you can't live in a world of mistrust, rivalry, and fear. Trust him if he's trustworthy, don't if he's not. Don't let doubts or fear ruin your happiness with him. You could live all your life with that fear and it would ruin your life. Imagine it, you're afraid it will happen all your life. nothing happens. You just ruined your life. Don't allow the green eyed monster (jealousy or fear of it) destroy what you have. enjoy while it lasts. And it might last a lifetime.1
Instead of overthinking it, do the most rational thing. Talk to him about this. Tell him you are worried. Don't feel afraid to show your insecurities. Open-up to him so this can be settled in a mature way. Give him a chance to give you the answers you seek. Asking us might actually cause more doubts, so go to the source.1
Be very careful with this one.
I know it has been said and many don't believe it, but a man can not be just friends with a girl that he is very attracted to. I have lots of female friends, but I am not attracted to the ones I stay just friends with long term.
If he is not physically attracted to this girl, don't worry. He is happy that his friend got out of a bad relationship.
If he is attracted to her, be careful.0
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''but yes that boyfriend wld always text my boyfriend''
you have 2 boyfriends?0
she's still his friend. if he doesn't like a guy, why should he see her suffer?0
What Girls Said 10
Stop getting paranoid. They have a history together as friends, and its just as friends. He's happy, because the guy was not right for his friend. He sees her as a 'sister', and would you want somebody to hurt somebody you care and love as friend/sibling? I think not. What they have is maturity. And right now as a 17 year old you don't understand that maturity yet, because you never experienced that with a male friend. Until you do and develop such relationships, your going to get jealous. And jealousy in relationships is immaturity.0
Maybe he's just thankful he doesn't have to put up with him anymore, coz he doesn't like him , and probably knows his female friend could find a guy who'll treat her better
I wouldn't overthink at this stage. You'll just end up creating a problem that wasn't even there in the first place.2
I would just think that he recognised that his friend's boyfriend was controlling and is pleased that she broke up with someone like that. It doesn't seem to me like he's being inappropriate.1
I would think if he wanted to date her he would have. But he's with you. You're always taking a chance when giving someone your heart. But if you create problems of what might happen then it will never work. He might like her, he might not. You just be the best girlfriend you can be. Don't drive yourself crazy. But keep your eyes open.0
It doesn't necessarily mean that he will go to his friend or that he likes her or anything. If he did, they might have been together now before you guys got together anyway.
But he might just be happy because he did not approve/like the guy she was dating and since they are so good friends, he - of course, only wants the best for his friend.
Isn't that pretty normal to want your friend to find someone you also think is a good person? And who you approve of and might get along with?
If some of my friends (girl or boy) had a partner I didn't get a long with and they broke up, I would be pretty happy as well.0
Listen. Personally if my boyfriend was talking to another girl and being besties with her and then say he's happy she broke up with her boyfriend I would be pissed as shit and would have every right to. It's not being a crazy girlfriend, it's just being overprotective and jealous.1
Your boyfriend subconsciously wants to be return his female friend. Hell drop u for her in a sec0
STOP BEING INSECURE!!
Guys don't like a girl who thinks like that!
Obviously they are bff's.
You should watch My Best Friends Wedding and In Time With You. Figure out which one will happen to you.0
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