Dating is so confusing!
Ok, so I asked a truly nice gentleman over the weekend. Things were going well, conversation flowed well but when the bill came, I offered to go dutch (splitting the tab) and he seemed offended. And was persistent on paying for us both. Later he brought it up and asked me why I did that, I then said we were just raised in a home where we were taught to be independent. He says, "Alright, I respect that."
To be honest, I can't think of anything else I did wrong over the date except that. So I then offered to pay for our next meal together. But never heard back from him again (its been 3 days) so I don't really expect anything. I just need help understanding what is so wrong with offering to split the bill? Was that offensive? Or did I do something else wrong?
Split the bill on a date.. I need your help?
Dating is so confusing!
What Guys Said 6
A good man is a protector and provider. If you don't let him do those things, you don't see him as a man, at least in his eyes.
If he does not do those things, he is not a man.
That being said, I have let girls pay for some of the date to avoid a fight but I don't feel like they are interested in me.0
He enjoyed the meal and being with you so he felt the need to be nice and do the nice thing in the situation. He wanted a way to show that you matter to him and he thought that was away to show ho much you mean to him. Chivalry isn't dead but you gotta earn it not ask for it. That is the big change in dating. Guys will do nice things if it means they get a postive response from the other half. But if its dead beat responses and the date isn't going well of course Chivalry is going to lack.0
No need to read , no read to overthink. The person who asked the other out! The person who asked PAYS.
I don't care what other says or the stupid rules are. You invite me ! you pay.0
The man usually pays. Plus, as others have said already, he who asks, pays.0
What Girls Said 2
Sometimes asking to or offering to splitting the bill implies a disinterest in the other person. I'd either pay the whole thing or let him pay the whole thing. Splitting, in my eyes, implies plutonic friends.2
Always expect to pay and offer to do so, but if he won't let you, then just let him and don't insist. Say your thanks by getting him a drink or something later on instead.0
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