Assuming it's a pet you have a strong emotional attachment to and this is a person you love, would you get rid of the pet or the person? There's no in between. This person will not stay with you if you don't get rid of your pet. Who stays and who goes? Get rid of the pet or get rid of the SO?
There are a few billion other potential SOs, any one of which may leave me for minor bullshit. My pet won't leave me and uniquely loves me as I am.
I quote John Grogan, author of Marley and Me:
“A dog has no use for fancy cars, big homes, or designer clothes. A water-logged stick will do just fine. A dog doesn't care if you're rich or poor, clever or dull, smart or dumb. Give him your heart and he'll give you his. How many people can you say that about? How many people can make you feel rare and pure and special? How many people can make you feel extraordinary?”
If my SO gave me that ultimatum, they would instantly become another of my ISOs.
It would depend on the reason, really. I know I'm not going to win a popularity contest for this, but let's say I had a dog. Somewhere along the way, I fell in love with someone who is violently allergic to dogs and for whatever reason, can't do anything about it. I'd do everything in my power to find a good home for the pet with someone I know, where I could visit now and then. Now just because someone doesn't *like* dogs, no, that's not an acceptable reason. I'm just saying there are exceptions that need to be made now and then.
You would have to be a deeply disturbed person to not like pets to the point of wanting them out of your partner's life so I'd drop that crazy right out of the door before she could even finish telling me what is that she meant to say.
I will get rid of the pet because I have no other sensible choice.
kind of an interesting question I don't think a lot of people would just get rid of a pet just cause a partner asked , unless they didn't really like it and had been thinking of getting rid of it anyways
If I had a pet, and it came before my SO, then I will always choose my pet over my SO because they had been loyal to me. The best way is still to not let my SO ever know about my pet from the beginning, and that way even if this situation had to happen, we'd probably already had sex at least once or twice before I finally decided I had to get rid of her because of my unwillingness to be disloyal to my loyal pet, at least I hope we had sex at least once or twice before this shitty situation comes around where I have to pick to keep one and not the other.
Oh well, at least I'll have fun with my SO before having to give her up.
I would definitely choose my pet over a SO. Mainly because I don't trust that my SO is really in it for the long haul. I know my pet is because they don't have a choice :P. They love me unconditionally. Can't say that about anyone I know who is human.
People leave you for such stupid things. Honestly, I could never ask a SO to give up their pet. As I know how meaningful pets are to people. They're part of the family and I could never ask someone to choose me over their pet.
I would always find a way to make it work for all of us.
Plus there's no guarantee that if I did get rid of my pet, that my SO would stay with me. They could leave a week later for all I know.
I believe that if your Hunny Bunny really Loved you Unconditionally, @Elarra... He wouldn't be so Selfish as to Ask this of you. He doesn't wantto Share you with Anyone. Sit down and think this over. If you Start to Stand for this with this Man, then you will always be Stooping to Whatever Poop he decides to Scoop and Throw your way. I think he Has this Carrot dangling over your nose. Call his Blow wind Bluff. Tell him Pretty Kitty is staying, there's the Door... Don't let it hit you in the Bum as you leave Here, dear. Good luck and Use your Upper Hand. xx
Yes I would. My father got rid of his cat when he married my mom, well, a few months later because my mom is allergic to cats and it could've even affected my mom's pregnancy (with me). If I were in a similar situation I would definitely do it. Maybe give the pet to someone else I trust and go visit it from time to time. Or if I have a garden just leave it in the garden.
Get rid of my SO not even a question. People who don't like animals are a huge no no for me and people my dog doesn't like just as much. I feel like my dog sometimes recognises people with the wrong intentions before I do.
If it was because of an allergy, or some serious problem with my pet, I'd give my pet to someone else that I trust. If they're just not an animal person... I don't even think I'd be able to date a person that doesn't like animals... :P
I'd definitely get rid of the pet. I love my boyfriend very much and soon he'll be my husband. I wouldn't pick an animal over a person and especially not someone as important as my husband. Also, I value humans over animals so getting rid of a pet won't be a big deal.