Because I am an older Caucasian conservative, I am sometimes accused of being a xenophobe, racist, homophobe, and whatever other name my accuser may know. However, those people don't know me and they are making conclusions that suit their purpose: to put down and insult anyone who disagrees with them.
Contrary to what those people thought, over my lifetime, I have dated a few Jewish girls, a German girl, a Colombian girl, a Brazilian girl, a Filipino, and a lady from the Ukraine. All of them had some very nice qualities (obviously; why would I date a girl who was entirely bad?) However, with some of them, the cultural differences were simply too great to overcome and we parted ways. The failure of the relationship did not flow from any prejudice or bias against the lady; it was just a relationship that didn't work.
One of the Jewish girls was a JAP (Jewish American Princess); everything was all about her. The Colombian girl did not work out but not because of cultural differences; same for the Brazilian lady. I married the German girl but she was extremely materialistic and left within 2 weeks of me being laid off from my job. The Filipino was a very nice lady but I just felt no attraction to her (although I have seen many Asian women who I thought were extremely attractive!) The lady from the Ukraine was also annoyingly materialistic, perhaps as a consequence of growing up in the USSR where there was usually a shortage of some commodity. My current girlfriend was born in the US to two Jews from eastern Europe. We are extremely compatible. (Obviously, this is the typical modus operandi of xenophobic racists.)
What experiences have you had with dating outside of your race, nationality, or ethnicity? Did cultural differences make it more difficult to establish a comfortable dating relationship?
- I do not date outside of my race/nationality/ethnicity.37%(28)37%(51)Vote37%(23)
- I have dated 1-2 people outside of my race29%(22)31%(43)Vote33%(21)
- I have dated 3+ people outside of my race8%(6)11%(15)Vote14%(9)
- I have dated 1-2 people outside of my nationality5%(4)6%(9)Vote8%(5)
- I have dated 3+ people outside of my nationality5%(4)3%(4)Vote0%(0)
- I have dated 1-2 people outside of my ethnicity3%(2)2%(3)Vote2%(1)
- I have dated 3+ people outside of my ethnicity13%(10)10%(14)Vote6%(4)
Most Helpful Girl
I voted D because that's what best fits my experience. I've never dated outside of my race (and people on here have said I'm racist because of that. ?). I'm Canadian (although born in the US, but raised in Canada), and my husband is from Serbia. Our ethnic backgrounds are similar in that we both have a Slavic background, but there are still a whole lot of differences.
A couple of years ago, I wrote a MyTake with tips on dating outside your culture/nationality based on my experience. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7011-dating-somebody-from-a-different-country-or-culture
I've found it quite enriching and rewarding to be with someone from a different country. He had a strikingly different upbringing than I did, and because of that he's taught me how to broaden my outlook on life and appreciate things. Fitting, as it's Thanksgiving weekend here 😊1
Most Helpful Guy
Outside of my race/nationality/ethnicity all in one package eh.
Anyway. Listening to those horror stories. Oooooh... ooooh. Should have stayed with the Filipino girl. I like Filipinos. Very fond memories with them growing up.
For all the ones I've grown up with , not date. They are content with what they have.
Simple pleasures in life. While some other girls may go off to whatever , they spend their holiday with their friends , sitting around in a circle on a meadow, enjoying the sunshine , sharing treats they've made , happy people even though they don't have a lot. I respect that. Simple pleasures.1