I'm not good enough for a boyfriend, guys don't even notice me, and all men do is take your focus away from things in life anyway. I don't want to feel any attraction to guys anymore I'm tired of being the desperate girl that confuse me with (she just doesn't want to date rn) I don't want to feel left out someday when I get older and never have sex. I don't want to feel bad when couples kiss infront of me because I literally have tears in my eyes and almost just cry. I don't want to feel lonely, I want to be good with my close friends even if they have someone above me (bf) I don't want any attraction to guys! They never like me back anyway! So what the hell is the point? I don't want to be straight, lesbain, bi sexual. None of that! I don't want any attraction at all because it isn't happening for me and it never will!
Most Helpful Guy
Asexuality is too easy, you can always just never give in to sexual urges and stick to solo. Be solo instead maybe that should help. If no one's good enough for you, you might as well be in your own fantasy world. Like Fernando for example or that Turkey from Free birds.
No sex is involved in being solo, you even get a solo badge from me for being a solo player. i97.servimg.com/u/f97/19/54/92/01/mexi_m11.png0
Most Helpful Girl
Well you can't just stop attraction. You don't need to be asexual. What this sound like is that you want to be celibate and your extremely hurt by men. I know how you feel right now, because that was how I was feeling all my life basically. You have a bigger purpose, but its up to you to find that. You don't have to date. But being asexual will not make it any better either, it will just make you more miserable. I'm not going to say, aw your young and all that excuses. Because to be honest, even hearing the word 'young' or your age is an insult. I'm about to be 25 in a few months. Do you know how many times I got told that? For years since your age. And now I get some pressure from family member's who either seem like that they don't understand or they won't. It will not change our experiences or the way we get treated overall in life, because of whatever excuses these guys want to give you that made you like this now. But mine has always been that I'm too weird, too awkward, strange, too different, they don't understand me, think I'm born in the wrong century, got called a B**** and how no guy would want to marry me, or how I wouldn't make a good wife/mother. How I'm stupid, crazy. Or they disrespect me by mocking me, pretending to like me only to try to get into my pants, don't respect my views and morals or how I think. Let alone my personality. Plus I have the mentality of somebody nearly 3x my age. Then sometimes they become friends with me only to try to date my other friends. Basically I never been considered for anything, or how abnormal I am. That and you get worse when they claim to be Christian's also.
Its a lot. So I don't know your story really, except I received your feelings on this, and you remind me of another me who's just a few years younger. But again, if you feel your not made for relationships with men on that level, don't push yourself. Have time for yourself and just don't go bitter because of it. I became victim of this a few times growing up because of my past experiences. To tell you the truth, those kinds of guys will never go away and will always be around you. Some guys are genuine and others are not. And even when their nice, people change either for the better or for worse. But don't allow this to make you miserable either. Because if your like that, that will make guys want to avoid you. You have to be interesting and somebody that peeks their interest for them to date you.3