So, I've been talking to this girl, and we've come to the conclusion that we both have romantic feelings for one another, but still, she is uncomfortable with me touching her. And I'm not even talking about sexual touches, I'm talking hugs and pats on the shoulder, you know.
This boggles my mind because I also don't like people to touch me, much like her, however i wouldn't shy away if someone i love tried to touch me. Anyone want to try and explain this?
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That is a tough one... for the most part I don't bother with women who can't match my "love language" ... and for me TOUCH is a big one. I love to be touched by my partner. So if I meet a woman that doesn't like being touched I tend to move on fast.
But why not just ask her. I think it shows her how open and brave you are for asking deep questions, and it shows that you care how she feels, and it shows her that you're a man who likes to have clear boundaries... by saying "I actually also don't really like being touched... except from my one special woman."
Most likely she's still super shy and needs time to warm up to your new relationships. And so talking about it will help a LOT. Maybe she's got past trauma she's worried about sharing (many women are assaulted at a young age and it's awful) ... and this just means you'll have to be a good listener without judgements... most victims already blame themselves when they get hurt.
By giving her a safe honest space, when she's with you, you're guiding her to feel more open to touch.
I hope this helps,
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