I personally like being told but hate having to tell people because I tend to be pretty cold.
Last night i had to tell someone to their face that they aren't my type because they had tattoos, smoked weed, and that we just didn't have much in common. It felt harsh but i don't know how to filter myself- if they want to know, I'm guna tell them straight up.
Which would you rather do and have done to you?
I prefer telling them the truth and want them to tell me too (I like confrontation)
30% (8)69% (18)49% (26)Vote
I prefer they just take a hint but I need them to tell me they aren't interested
22% (6)8% (2)15% (8)Vote
I prefer they take a hint and I know how to take a hint too (i dont like confrontation)
30% (8)4% (1)17% (9)Vote
I prefer telling the truth but i can usually take a hint if they aren't interested in me
I picked the first one, but for me I would like to change it to state that I don't---DO NOT----like confrontation, but I just prefer to be open and honest and prefer others are the same with me as well. I don't like those who just take hints, because so much can be misinterpreted, and I believe in open, upfront, communication. It takes miscommunication and assumptions out of the equation and just makes life simpler. And since life is complicated enough, anything that simplifies life when we're able to is a bonus in my opinion.
With my personality always being optimistic, I will almost always talk myself into "she likes me but is shy", especially when most of the time when I meet her, I ask for her contact info and she gives it to me. So in my opinion I have EVERY right to think she is interested. My ego won't allow me to surrender a dating prospect that gave ME her contact info.
Therefore, hints don't work for me at ALL! She needs to woman up and tell me she is not interested, because my will is strong and my ego won't allow me to back down.
My mind always goes to "I'm an awesome dude, she has no reason NOT to be interested in me. The more she gets to know me, the more she'll know I'm a great catch. Just a matter of time until she wises up."
i prefer they tell me the truth but if they dont show much interest im just gonna drop them eventually. usually if i am not interested in someone i tell them head on. i dont want them to think i am interested in them when i am not, it makes me feel bad.
I voted A. However, confrontation does not have to be a part of it. If there is an attraction with one and not the other both need to know so both can move on. Being hung-up on a dead end goes nowhere.
I can actually do both. I rather that they tell me the truth than lie or lead me on. But I can read body languages and sense things from people, so even if they smile and pretend to like me, I know the truth either way. I value honesty in a person, as long as its not deliberately to hurt me.
I want to know if they like me, especially if I like them. I don't wanna be played or strung along. I don't want to waste my time and get more hurt than I would if I knew sooner/now. I'm in that sitch right now and I'm gonna figure it out tomorrow morning!
If someone I like is not interested in me, then I will know by their body language, facial expressions, attitude, etc
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