I met this polish guy 24F/28M on okcupid a month ago. In the first three weeks we went out once a week on saturdays, recent two weeks we met twice on thursdays and saturdays. Every date is 3- 11pm. We usually ate dinner in a restaurant then went to see a movie or just talked for 5 hours straight ( Its amazing how much we can talk with each other!) He remembered everything I told him, even suggested the movie I mentioned on first date. He always pays, we haven’t had sex yet, i told him i still had my v card he said don’t worry we took it slow. So 8 dates we only kissed without tongue, no make out. It seems perfect but there are several RED FLAGS.
1. I asked him what he was looking for. He said “I am open to anything”. Then he explained to me that you need to ride a bicycle before you decide whether you buy it or not. And he always overthink and overcommit in his past relationships. But I think if a guy is looking for long term relationship he will say” I am looking for long term relationship “.
3. He invited me to his place on our third date. Although nothing happened, we just talked. I feel he is not that serious about me.
4. He still logs on the dating website like once or twice a week. (I stopped using it after our third date and created a fake profile to see his status)
5. after our fourth date, he sent me a text” it’s been four dates and i still want more of you, maybe there is something to it.”