I'm done wasting my time on guys who don't give af about me or my feelings, and only care about getting what they want and seeing me as a sexual object. The main reason I went for these guys is because they were fun, very good looking and very confident.
I'm done wasting my time on these men. I'm ready to find and commit to someone who will return my feelings and is faithful, honest, etc. But I have no idea where to start. Not only that, I'm worried - will I have to sacrifice the things I find attractive in a man to find a decent one?
2. I haven't turned down any nice guys because they don't approach me. I don't want to have to wait around for someone to talk to men.
3. I make my own money and go to school, I don't need anyone to do anything for me.
4. To every man that has disrespected me, I'm sorry you've had a shitty life when it comes to dating.
Most Helpful Guy
Wow, you and 10 million other women your age all asking the exact same question.
You have zero right to complain about guys that want a commitment having standards that you no longer fit. You had YOUR standards when you were having fun with the bad boys. They get to have THEIR standards now that they are in charge.
Women hold the key to sex. Men hold the key to commitment.11
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Most Helpful Girl
I think the best thing you can do is focus on yourself for a bit. Find out what really makes you happy. Make that a priority. Once you are on a good kick of doing things for yourself and your happiness, you will stop letting in things that do not make you happy.
For instance, if you meet a guy, and things start off promising, but then he starts mistreating you. Because you now prioritize your happiness, you will cut the cord with this person. No longer tolerate things that make you unhappy.
If a guy starts to be mean to you, or abuse you or you feel unhappy with the situation, then exercise your right to choose what happens in your life and leave. It's not easy, because you will grow attached to some people. But as long as you are trying to make yourself happy, you will eventually find someone who you can work with.
Now, I'm not suggesting leave right at the first site of unhappiness. Hopefully the person is willing to work with you in the relationship. But if they are not, then you need to get out. The important thing is to find out if they are someone who is able to be worked with, or someone who isn't.
Try to look beyond looks and really see how you relate to the person.1