my boyfriend has court for a 2nd offense DUI. his lawyer told him that he'll probably have to do 3-6 months in jail. I don't want to break up with him, we get along great, never had an argument. but I'm really upset to find out he's going away soon. should I wait for him, break up with him, or just cheat. he's not a felon, but in my state 2nd offense drunk driving holds required jail time. it's a misdemeanor, and he'll be at the county jail.
Don't worry. Bad things can happen to good people sometimes. Let him serve the jail sentence and come back a new and reformed person. He will learn from his bad experiences and become more wiser. Give him the chance to bounce back smartly in life. In the mean time you can do something productive to get over your loneliness.
I stuck it out with a Guy who I was with, still is my Bestie, and he Did...3-6 Months in Ryker's Island. Time goes Real quick. I Stuck by his Side when he Needed me the most, I was Always there when it was Visiting Day on the Weekend day that was designated, and when he got Out, he was a new Man because the Can... Taught him a Lesson in his own Life of Strife. Good luck And the Ball is in your own Court that Day. xx
I'm sorry to hear that @ MegaBeauty! If you don't mind me asking, is your boyfriend an alcoholic? Reason i ask is because you wouldn't want to be in the car with him if he's drunk since you're putting your life in danger too.
In answer to your question, if he's going to be in County jail for 3-6 months, it does leave the door open for you to cheat while he's not around! 6 months is a long time to wait for sex if you decide to stay with him too or you could break up with him and find another guy.
Good luck and I'm sure you'll choose the right decision for you 😆
Sorry to hear about your boyfriend. That must be hard on you. But to be fair. It was extremely dangerous what he did. Even though he is going to jail. He still is lucky that he didn't kill someone or himself.
To answer you question. When you say cheat, what are we talking? Flirting? Making out? Sex? Online Cheat? Phone sex? Why would you want to cheat? You need to release sexual frustration? Or payback for going to jail?
Play the "I'm sooo upset!" card! Tell him you would not be able to survive without him and that him going to prison is the most selfish thing he has ever done! Then break up!
Then you have all the sex you want, and when he comes out you apologise and tell him how stupid you were! Can't believe you said all those things... blah.. blah. And then kiss & make up! So you have sex, without cheating, without losing him!
Unless he killed somebody, he won't got to jail. The lawyer is probably trying to get more $$$ out of him. Mine told me I had a good case and once he got his "retainer fee" of $2000 he changed his tune.
either you keep the relationship going or break up. but don't cheat
if you love him and the reason why he has to go to jail is no reason to break up with, then 3-6 months without seeing him don't seem to be a good reason to break up, especially if it's closer to 3 months.
there s a difference between a first time and a second time
that's simple logic don't drink before you drive
i don't think your boyfriend is bad but honestly at my age i avoid drinks all together brings to many issues
hun if you can hold it in then sure stay but if you will cheat break up with him
yes no doubt i mean i would be sucking guys in the clink so...
If i went 120 days with out porn and masterbating. you can go 4 to 6 months 1 o'clock Dj ing yourself with out someone else's dick inside you.
sometimes guys become more attractive when there in jail oddly enough , if the relationship isn't working for you maybe its time to see whats out there. I don't know , he made a dumb decision to continue to drink and drive after already being caught once before
This is really your call. If cheating will bother you guilt wise and you do not think you can do without while he is away I would suggest breaking up with him. If after he gets out maybe you can start again if the circumstances are appropriate... for example you have not found a new boyfriend.
Ok first of all why do you want someone in your life who clearly has a drinking problem, nor has any regard for their life or anyone else on the roads? If you thinking about cheating before he even leaves just break up with him. Don't be that girl that stays and gets taken advantage of, thats just silly
i wouldn't, why cheat when you can just dump them first? it'll erase the guilt. and besides, it really depends on what my s/o did. if the "crime" wasn't really that serious then i'd stay. if it was and i know that my s/o was like that then i'd dump him.