I moved into my new apartment with my son in June, met this guy at the playground in our area with his son a week or so later. He introduced himself, we found out we lived across the street from each other. There was definitely mutual attraction. We would continue to casually bump into each other at the playground and chat, then I found out he puffed, I did too so we made plans to smoke one together on a kid free night Anyway this went on for a few weeks then he brought up coming to his place to watch Netflix, I knew what that meant. I didn't go for it the first few times but gave in early in July. Soon after, he started referring to himself as the man in my life, asked us to be exclusive, started sending cute texts etc We talked and both said we didn't really want a relationship, but we wanted to keep seeing each other. I was trying to keep my walls up but he was really sweet and charming. Anyway since we were so close we were seeing each other several times a week. Not just at night, our kids were close to the same age and got along, it was fun, things were clicking. It started feeling like a relationship and that really scared me but I was starting to fall for this guy. He was so loving, calling me pet names all the time, kissing me in front of his friends, telling me how beautiful I was, he told me he was starting to have feelings for me but that he wouldn't say he loved me until the time was right. Ok, maybe he is as into me as I thought, I told him I kinda had feelings for him too. Things kept on going well, then I ended up getting stuck for a sitter after school, he offered to do it. So things were still going well, then I decided maybe this was all too much and maybe we should back off for a bit. He told me he would wait for me if I walked away, So I decided to stick around. A few days later he asked me to be his girlfriend, 10 days after that he dumped me in a text at 1:30 in the morning. This was all over 3 months. WTF?
Neighbour turned friends with benefits turned official, 3 months together then text message dumped?
What Guys Said 1
Maybe he was just playing games. Some guys will tell a girl anything she wants to hear just to have sex and get laid. Another possibility he was a player. Another possibility is maybe he wasn't ready to fully commit and it overwhelmed him. What he did was still messed up and very wrong. Even the way he broked up was very wrong and messed up and dirty.1
What Girls Said 1
"It started to feel like a relationship and that really Scared... Him.
It's as Plain as the Nose on your face, Jane. He grew Cold Duck feet, it has Nothing to do with his own "Dick" getting cold. I am Not seeing the Sure Signs of him using you. He just Ran back into these Murky Male waters, like many Toms do Today. And some even play Head and Heart games.
It could become a Problem Pattern so watch out that you don't Enable him to Come back and forth, and Around like a Merry Go Round here, dear.
Whatever you do, Stand your ground.
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