I've noticed all high school, I'm in my junior year now, boys don't even realize my existence. I've gotten so frustrated with that lately i started showing clevlage. But I try and dress pretty I don't put on too much make up. All the girls at my school have perfect body. Im not fat... I just have a little belly fat. I try and exercise when I can but I never have any time. Mabye guys don't like my body? But there's no way every single girl at my school works out. I don't eat very much so why do I have that belly fat. Maybe I'm just plain unattractive, guys don't really even look at me they look right ahead of me when I pass by, even when I'm showing boob. :( Its disappointing and frustrating. I just don't feel enough. I feel so ugly and undesirable. And that my body is u desirable. I have a hard time believing it could change but when I try I never have enough time anyway to work out. Will I be alone forever. I don't want the only that that will notice me to be as desperate and unattractive as I am with low standards. What do boys like? How can I be beautiful?
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Your beautiful as you are. You don't need a man's validation to prove that. If you don't start loving you for who you are, no guy is going to do it for you, unless he naturally has love for you in return. What it is, is that you have to find your own purpose as an individual and know that you are worth it. But if you don't allow yourself that chance, then you won't have it by your choices. I have never dated nor had a boyfriend in my entire life. The only reason why they would want you is to just use you for sex and that's it. They don't think about the prospects of the future, let alone with you. And that is where I pulled myself back. Because if your always and too available, they will start to think that your either too desperate, or not interesting to date.
Men don't need sex or just a warm female body to feel happy, just like most couples. They need a partnership and a best friend. That person has to want to desire you as a person, not out of lust. Because if its lust, then its not love. Love chooses you, and you must chose love. I had good enough suiters. Probably the same amount as you. But that didn't stop me to the point that I'm Celibate. I'm celibate because I got tired of being treated the way I was treated. Because I realized that it wasn't for me. Because I had to focus on my future, and how my choices may impact other people who needs me. And besides if you start revealing your sensuality like that, they will never respect you and that is why they aren't paying attention to you even when you did cover up before.
Change your way of thinking and how you approach your goals. Don't pay attention to guys and looking for somebody to notice you. They know who you are and notice you, your not so invisible. But until you understand this, it will not make things any better. Its part of growing up. You have to move on with life. And guys at your stage at life are not always men or going to men, just the same as most women and other people. Right now, you may not see that. But one day you will either the easy way or the hard way. Somebody will know how to love you, and give you what you always desired. But remember this: What you need may not be what you want, and what you want isn't always going to be what you need. Its a life lesson you'll just have to learn. Best Regards.3