Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and ever since day one there has been a girl trying to break us up and at one point she did because he refused to stop talking to her and I had had enough. They went on a few dates for that whole month we weren't together he swore up and down they never even kissed. However, earlier today we were talking and she came up I said I would be mortified if he had ever kissed her and he finally admitted that he did. This was a little over 2 years ago and I'm just now finding out. I feel so disgusted by it and it's making me wonder what else he has lied about. He recently asked my dad for permission to marry me and I feel like I am just so upset I don't want him to ask me anymore because if he lied about kissing her for 2 years what else don't I know. Please tell me if I'm overreacting!!
Most Helpful Guy
They were probably having hardcore sex the whole time and been lying to you since the beginning. Who knows? Maybe you are just paranoid and that it could really just be nothing, maybe your boyfriend was trying to decide who is better in bed which is why he probably cheated in the first place.
You can always demand a polygraph lie detector test although there are ways for them to cheat and beat it, but it's worth a try to see if how much of the truth had he kept hidden from you. The last thing you want is to be married with him and he's sneaking off whenever possible and sleeping with that other girl. If the polygraph reveals enough deception then he had not been fully truthful about the whole time he had been with that other girl.
You might as well confront him and ask him the truth as to why he dated the other girl. What is it that he wanted from her that you lacked and can't provide him? Ask him why can't he absolutely be clear and make up his fucking mind already and just pick one girl, and if he really prefers the other girl then he needs to man the fuck up and break it off with you right now without any more lies or going behind your back trying to hide things from you.0
Most Helpful Girl
You are not overreacting. I would be hesitant to get married after finding this out as well. Honesty is one of the keys to a healthy, lifelong relationship. And while it's good that he FINALLY told you the truth, it's not so good that he hid it for so long. I would proceed with caution.1