Some peoples expectations are a bit too high. You have below average looking men that think they can get a 10/10 model like woman. Or you have below average women looking to bag young handsome toyboys, or a tdh business man. So yes some people have unrealistic expectations.
I've met people on both sides, I met men and women who were below average (not physically attractive, annoying ect) who expected to date a genius rich supermodel looking person, and I met others who I found to be above average who basically dated anyone.
In the general sense? No, I don't think so. But I do think some men as well as some women have high expectations of what they want in a partner. Even some of my own friends. I have some female friends that will go on and on in what they want in their next boyfriend. They are usually able to find guys they want though so that isn't really much of a problem. Some guys have ridiculous standards too, like they are out of shape but they want a girl who is fit and plays a sport. Of course, we all would like to date someone more attractive and successful than us, that's just human nature.
It's complicated. I think the majority of people under normal circumstances don't have unrealistic expectations and they're off the market by age 25. The older you get the more the market is filled with people with unrealistic standards. Some of these people always had unrealistic standards, others keep adding demands to their list, based on past experience (the person who cheated on you always showered for less than 8 minutes per day so now someone showering less than 8 minutes per day is a dealbreaker for you), others have standards that used to be realistic but got unrealistic since they've gotten old/fat/became a single parent, etc...
Special mention 1) Clubs and online dating/dating apps where skewed gender ratios and the large number of people on offer tend to induce unrealistic standards in people.
Special mention 2) Women who don't get that men lower their standards for casual sex: just because you once got a drunken 9/10 man to sleep with you at some point doesn't mean you can afford to wait around for a 9/10 man to sweep you off your feet and wife you up.
Special mention 3) neckbeards/basement dweller men who ae grossly overweight, unkept, don't have anything going for them, don't even have any interests besides gaming, and then complain on the internet how hey can't get any women over a 6/10 to even be remotely interested in them.
This site is gonna give you a very biased view of dating. Guys have their lists of hot girls and the shit theyll put up with. Girls their lists of all the traits they want in their perfect man. A lot of talk about not settling yadayada...
It all changes when you love someone. Standards and lists dont matter, you love the person good and bad and end up being accepting... Thats how it really works.
Real life vs social media expectations are so different. I consider myself below average in looks and my personality is not the best since I'm loud and awkward. What's strange is that I get stares from girls. Mostly the same girls I see at the rec centre and girls at work who I don't talk to.
To be very honest, what I actually perceive more is that women have radically unrealistic expectations of themselves and for their own lives, then throw their disappointment on to the men they are with.
Guys expectation are simple: 1. Be attractive for him 2. Don't get fat and stay active (aka watch your diet) 3. Be a good person 4. Be loyal 5. Do something with your life that doesn't involve sex industry 6. Don't be controlling 7. Don't be clingy
Female expectation of men: 1. Be attractive for them which usually mean being above average in several categories whether its height, face etc. 2. Make more money than them 3. Be very social and have some popularity 4. Have a nice place 5. Have nice clothes 6. Have nice car 7. Be entertaining and constantly spoil them 8. Don't be clingy