I started dating a guy for about 2 months now. We've really been hitting it off and he's honestly a great guy. Just one issue...
He's a musician and he posts a lot about his life online. Since dating, I've been attending his gigs out-of-state and in-state and he'd take photos with others, put them online and refuses to take a photo of the two of us. It's almost like he doesn't want anybody to know that we're dating. I've been taking his photos regularly at his gigs with my camera and he's been posting them online and only tagging his other friends who attended the event and never me. Also, when his friends take photos of him he always puts a courtesy at the bottom letting them know that they've been taking his photos. I feel very undervalued and kind of used. I do nice things for him always and I don't really get anything for it... I know I sound silly in a sense because social media really shouldn't define where this is going but maybe I'm overextending myself?
When he was upset with me once, he posted a status about being hurt and confused once but nobody knew why of course... it's like he wants to be for sure that I'm in it for good but in the process wants perks out of it like support, photos and sex. I'm still patiently waiting for him to officially ask me out and me not having to say that I'm his girlfriend just to get into his gigs when I'm not officially... should I let the social media thing go? I actually posted a few things about him but on a friendly note.
Most Helpful Guy
You go on trips out-of-state with him and you are having sex but you are concerned about him "officially asking you out." That seems rather silly.
His behavior suggests that he really doesn't want others to know that you two are dating. Maybe there is someone else out there who is also wondering why he doesn't mention her on his social media. Beware!5
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Most Helpful Girl
Run like the wind. He's probably using you. I don't usually see social media as something you should plaster with your relationship but in this case he's being a total asshole. If he's not even asked you to be his girlfriend yet he's playing you for a fool. Don't put up with this, you deserve way better.1