I noticed this guy in a restaurant where I usually eat lunch, he was always polite to me, and each time he was staring at me. One day he asked me for my number, I gave it to him thinking a what the heck I'll give him a chance. He called me 30 minutes after I left asking for a date, but I was on a meeting (I'm a working woman), after a week he called again and I was on another meeting, so I couldn't speak to him AGAIN, than I thought "no way He's going to call 3rd time", but he did, and asked me to go out, so I said that I have a free evening today (to tell the truth I had a meeting but I cancelled), we met at 6 pm, he took me for mc Donald's ice cream and he drove me home, so at 6.30 I was sitting in front of computer what is going on! During the mc drive date he was cuddling, tried to touch me In a tease way, and being funny asking me a lot of questions but he said he's very tired and heve to go home and get some rest. ?
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I see a lot of argumentation's developing in here. "There is always a question from a guys point of view about what is a good first date..."; "Sounds like he's really, really desperate to me."; "That sounded like a guy who was looking for a cheap thrill and some sex." I put my smart glasses on, because contacts make me look too strong and vulgar.
Many of these points are nonetheless correct, as far as correct in the sense of experience may go. So nonetheless, these answers (including my own) may vary on a case to case basis. It's true, most guys don't have a clue as what a first date should be. Usually the first date describes the second; third; fourth... In the sense that, if I took you shopping on the first date, there is no way in hell that you were going to expect, McDonald's Ice Cream on the second; third; or fourth... So McDonald's Ice Cream isn't exactly a bad start. But as far as interpreting the date; and I know how women love to interpret things; then I have not a clue as to why he took you for Ice Cream. As my fellow mates have said, that seems a little bit low. But considering the fact that you turned him down 2 previous times, he may not have thought as far as to the third time and resorted to plan B.
To heck, maybe you messed up his previous plans. Maybe he did plan to take you out to eat or the movies if possible. But considering your schedule, he may not have been able to work with it and decided just to chill.
Then you mention he was a little touchy in a teasing way, I'm not sure what teasing means for you. But if I went as far as to touching in any way; I'd want to be touching in every way. Then you say cuddle; I'm still approaching south here and my mind may just be thinking like a guy at the moment, but touching plus cuddling usually means sex or no sex. Regardless, I do not plan to take that away from him, since I have not a clue as to what the guy is really like on a more personally basis.
If he spent as much time being sweet with you, he may have just been trying to stay sweet. Ice Cream is sweet; isn't it? =P Cuddling and touching is both bad, so I guess he tried to keep things mysterious. I'm still not quiet sure his game plan, but so far it seems to be working. So I say, If it works, why change it. =P
There you have it, as shady as it may sound, that is simply his game plan. Trying to figure it would only lead to you missing his point and objective. You'll only start developing remedial thoughts of what he may or may not be like in the end. So far you claim to enjoy his behavior, so I say give it a chance. If you want to know something, don't be afraid to ask HIM, because we can all tell you Touching and Cuddling is a old trick to getting some pussy. But many of us have also said, he took you for Ice Cream, how lame is that.
P.S: =P Your right, you may have just kicked it up a bit for him since you turned him down 2-3 times. What I mean is, he probably thought you were lying and meant, "TRY HARDER STUPID." =P0