The one I've always heard the most, and I am SO sick of hearing is the notion that "If you want a girlfriend/boyfriend, just talk to guys/girls." There is a LITTLE more to it than JUST talking to someone. That's like me saying "If you want to get an "A" on your essay, just type on the computer" or "If you want to hit a Home Run, just swing the bat." It's pointless nonsense.
What do you think is the most pointless dating advice you hear?
What Girls Said 38
When people say to me, "When you're not looking for it, the right person will find you." Like WTF Susan, you met your husband at a night club because you tried to take your bra off to single ladies dancing on the bar and fell on him. That ain't "not looking" and him "finding you". Thats "When your falling from the sky the right person will break your fall" and guess what? That advice is bull shit too.
Whose supposed to find us when we are ALL not suppose to be looking? And whose are we supposed to land on if we are ALL falling? Hmmmmmm? Riddle me the fuck that Susan!16
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The most pointless advice is any kind of advice that guarantees you'll succeed if you utilize it perfectly. That you'll land any girl/guy you want with this magical method, because, y'know- there aren't hundreds of variables that make every single situation completely different.
When people tell guys, "Just be yourself!" or "You'll find the right guy someday, don't ever change!"
No. Workout, eat right, join a. club or hobby, get your shit together. Be the best person you can be. This applies to women too. Don't sit back and wait for things to happen. You should be proactive not reactive.13
"Don't be picky."
I mean I'm not coming out with a laundry list of expectations but I'm not so desperate as to overlook shit. It's about finding a GOOD partner, not just A partner.9
To get over one person by dating a new person... It doesn't help you—it just compresses the problem, strokes your ego, and hurts the rebound...8
The Best from the Rest No 'Pointless dating advice' I give Here, Dear... Go Slow with Joe, Nurse and Nurture Something that Could be Special, and Use Baby Steps to Continue.
It may Be the Same with my Name, but it has Always been my Motto and I will Never Deter from it. Not as Long as I Continue to go Strong on Gag.
And Yes, 'If you want a girlfriend/boyfriend, just talk to guys/girl,' which is a Huge Important factor to Let someone Know that you are Ready and Raring to Date. Open Lines of Convo is also Very Important when Dating and Mating.
Good luck and Great question. @EngliishArtTeacher xx0
He's only mean to you because he likes you. Seriously?7
Playing hard to get. It makes no fucking sense.7
When I was single, my mom got me to go to events by telling me that "you will miss meeting some nice guys if you don't go". At 1st I would go excitedly, then I be be extremely disappointed when there weren't even any young people there. I met my ex at work and the current guy I'm dating online. Such bad advice because this just made me more frustrated.1
I hate when people who know about my anxiety tell me: "Don't let your anxiety control your life." when I have panic attack.
I have never let it control my life. I've had it since I was about 12 or so and I've dealt with it since then. The people who say this to me don't know about my life or my anxiety. I've gotten quite far in life on my own. I never ask for help or anything. Every single thing I have in my life I earned on my own. I moved an hour away from my family to grow as my own person.
One of the guys who once told me this isn't as far in life as me. I've accomplished more in life than he has. So it's irritating to hear. Not once since I was about 12 have I let it take over, so it's useless advice. Whenever I tell them to shut the fuck up, they get pissed off, say I am getting defensive and giving them attitude when they are just trying to help. Well guess what? You aren't helping. I know not to let it take over my life. I don't need stupid advice like that.1
Order a salad on the first date7
The dumbest advice I was given was to never stay single. Don't break up with a guy until you found another guy who wants you (unless of course he abuses/cheated on you). My aunt told me this because she said that it increases the value of your relationships0
Yeah... I know what you mean. I guess the most pointless advice that I ever see people giving is the "judge based on looks." Like that's not valid in any way shape or form. I mean, yes, there's the common sense oh oh hey, I'm not going to go and date some 50 year old if I'm only 25.0
"There's always a hope"7
People always tell me I go for guys that aren't as interested in me but I let the guys who are obsessed with me go.. which duh. I'm perfectly aware of who I'm dating thank you very much.1
"more fish in the sea"' is my least favorite dating advice lol4
Got this advice from my friend yesterday.
"You shouldn't worry about going after your crush because in the future you'll just look back and you'll be distracted because you never asked and you'll find someone later"
So... I should never ever try to talk to my crushes, because there's a chance it may go wrong? 😅
I don't care if it doesn't go as I planned, you'll never know unless you try it.2
"Just tell him you like him!"2
That will be... 'Give the child a chance; you will develop feelings'... I mean it either I like you or I don't... And if I don't; then do not force me to be with someone just because they are good and will be good to me...1
"If you want to be happy just lower your standards." I do have some standards but they're not unreasonable and it's really stupid to assume that I'd be happy if I went for something that I don't like. I mean come on.1
The whole act like a bad boy thing that some men seem to believe in. Lmao either you are one or you aren't. And even a bad boy can treat his woman right.1
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What Guys Said 43
As a man, we're often told: "Don't call/text her for a couple of days after the date, no matter how well it goes."
I've asked for a second date within an hour of the first date ending several times. And for the most part, those were my best dating experiences/relationships.6
The most pointless advise I hear these days is be a good guy and women will want to be your girlfriend. I really can't understand why women are not attracted to good caring loyal nice guys. Women by nature to me are mentally ill to not find those quality's attractive.2
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"Just get out there and you'll meet women!"
•What if the activities I engage in are heavily male dominated?
•What if the type of places I go to hang out at are not the type you eat to try and find a woman to date at?
Everything assumes you already have the perfect social connections.
the internet is a pretty weird place aometimes , the you will find her when you're not looking did actually work for me though but not as good as for other guys iam never in the right place at the right time i usually attract lots of girls but they end up being taken, i would say that looks are a big part of it which very few people on here admit and luck just sheer old luck is what gets you the guy/girls i have heard over and over again in real life and experienced it forst hand gotta be lucky cause even with my good looks and interesting personality getting girls is not easy1
Worst advice ever? "You shouldn't feel that way."1
"There's someone out there for everyone."
There really isn't.6
"There is someone for everyone out there."
Nope, there clearly isn't.5
By far the stupidest and most annoying is when people say to those who never had a bf/gf bullshit like "aww you are young, it will happen, dont worry". And everybody says that bullshit. And when you find people over 35 who have been single their whole life, then those same people write "what have you been waiting for?"2
I never thought of that, because i never got any tips. My brother had 3 different girlfriends in one year back then, so maybe i took his relationship fails as tips! Damn that's deep. I would say: be a friend first, listen to her and help her, at the same time open up a little bit and trade facts about each other.1
I don't hear any cause I don't ask for any 😜0
"You'll find someone!"
It is so bad, it was my first myTake! Super insulting, super depressing, super demeaning... it's got everything!
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The advice you find when you Google "how to tell if a girl likes you" is probably the worst advice I had ever seen. Not sure what I expected (I was 13/14 when I did this) but it basically said they could if they touch their hair and if they don't then they could as well.
Thanks internet. Helpful as always.0
I don't really ask for much advice but I mainly always hear the, "Just be yourself." bit. Like no way man, when I'm alone, I am pretty fucking weird.2
It's not pointless nonsense. Pushing a key on your keyboard or swinging your bat are crucial first steps in producing that essay or hitting that home run.0
Those are good analogies actually so if you want to get better at picking up girls... swing the bat some more.0
People say be charming: what they dont say how exactly0
Everything will work out in the end if you're patient. Fuck no it doesn't unless you're carpeing the diem2
"Just be yourself. Don't change just to get a larger dating pool. One day you'll find a girl who loves you just the way you are."1
"No means no" Pffft...
Seriously, the wait 3 days to text and all that "mind games" bullshit. Whoever invented that should be smacked.1
Most pointless advice I've heard is that when women tell you., "Aww, you're sweet." that you're friend zoned. Only you can put yourself in the friend zone.0
people telling you to break up.0
I know, right? For me, the major question is HOW to approach and talk to them. I can't "just do it"!0
Try Match. com or E-Harmony that is the worst advice anyone can give me.0
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