I met a guy that is "perfect", with a lot of qualities that I always wanted in a man: Handsome, respectful, loyal, romantic etc etc. But I don't why I just can't develop feelings for him, even if I'm trying very hard to. I'm feeling guilty and frustrated because I think he is the kind of guy that has all the qualities for a excelent boyfriend and I can't feel anything for him. :(
And no, I don't feel attracted by douchebags or something like this, ok?
I just want to know why I can't fall in love with him. Does we didn't chose who we are going to fall in love?
Maybe it's because of a fact that all men know and all women argue against; women have no fucking clue what they want or need and there's a serious ambiguity of definitions between want and need to women where they genuinely don't understand the difference.
I don't know, but sometimes the chemistry… the je ne sais quoi… it's just not there.
I was going to ask whether you're really more attracted to the "bad boy" cliche, someone who isn't perfect, takes risks, and always wants what he wants. But then I read your assertion about "douchebags". Is this what you mean?
This perfect guy… is he an acquaintance? Coworker? Friend of a friend? Could you spend some time getting to know him a bit better and see if something eventually sparks?
You can't ever force love. You can't force there to be a connection. Don't ever "try" to fall in love, you could regret being with this person later. Also trying to hard can prevent you from falling too. You need to stop trying to force it and stop overthinking it. Just be natural.
I think subconsciously you are afraid of being rejected. Don't force your feelings for him but that would be so frustrating. honestly though I think you are just afraid of being rejected which is so common.
answer mine please? if you go to my account the one with does he like me one