I met this Tinder dude at a bar and he got drunk. He was VERY nervous and stated that he was shy. I lost count how many drinks he consumed that night. My friends said I should not go out with him again. Any thoughts?
Dude got drunk on first date? Red flag?
What Guys Said 11
Um... well, it's definitely not a good start. I'm not saying you shouldn't give him a second chance, but I'm not saying you should see him again either. It's completely up to you. However, you say that he was very nervous and that he said himself that he was shy. Try going on a date with him again, but tell him that he can't drink ANY booze. And if he does, then you won't ever see him again. I understand being nervous and shy. But drinking is usually NEVER a good idea - especially if you're on a date. People have gotten along without drinking booze on a date. If this guy needs booze, then he needs psychiatric help. The fact that he's in his 20s is DEFINITELY not a good sign at all. He should have learned how to be relatively comfortable around other people already by now.1
If the concern is that he got drunk and it was obvious and it had a negative impact on the date then definite red flag. But if you had a good time and he was able to keep himself under control after drinking it might be worth a second chance. If he drinks excessively on the second date then, yes, absolute red flag. Unless you want to date a drunk. Some people are ok with that. It's just about what you are comfortable with.2
Yes getting drunk on a first date is a red flag. If you give him another chance just be careful and watch out for excessive drinking.1
Was he nice? Does he have potential? Go out with him and ask him not to drink. If he likes you, he'll respect your wishes. Don't let your friend player hate.2
not the best first impression. if you do date again do something with out a bar2
If anything ''my friends said'' is something of a redflag. I think he should find someone that can make up their own mind without worrying what her ''friends said''.1
that is a horrible first impression.. i wouldn't stick around too long with him lol1
If you like him and think he has potential I would give him one more chance. Maybe just try something that doesn't involve alcohol. Nerves can get the best of a person especially if they're shy.1
Sounds like you went out with MGTOW Blue Anon (25-29) on his built up courageous moment.0
Give him another shot!0
Well he must have been really shy to do that but I think he deserves another shot , he may be really nice guy0
What Girls Said 2
Every Tinder date I ever went on, the guy got drunk (and on some occasions, so did I!) it's awkward to meet someone from online - even moreso if you're shy. It doesn't necessarily signal that he has a problem with drinking or being social. If you think they're might be something great underneath his one night of drinking, I'd give him another chance. Just maybe suggest something during the day for a second date, that wouldn't involve alcohol 😊3
It's hard to say because he said he was shy and nervous. If you really enjoyed your night with him, I think you should give him another chance1
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