I'm a 22 yr old female. Recently met a lovely man we've enjoyed plenty of amazing dates. It's more than a sexual attraction our dates typically end up being all day dates with just us talking or hanging out. My only real concern about diving into a relationship is he is 34 so he's 12 years older. Do you think this age gap is too big? I forget about the age gap most of the time I spend with him but I know some of my friends find the age gap weird and it upsets me because he is slowly becoming important to me
For males, the typically socially acceptable age range is half your age, + 7. So, for me, 26, it would be 20 years old. If I dated an 18 year old or 19 year old, people would start viewing it as a bit too large of an age gap. Not overly so. But it would receive a more negative feelings than dating a 20 year old.
For him, he's 34, so his socially acceptable age range would be a 24 year old. 22 isn't too much farther from that. So, you'll probably get a marginal amount of negative feelings about your relationship; but not a lot.
12 years is quite an age gap. My parents are 9 years apart, and I know a lot of peoples' parents who have been 5+ years apart. I don't know if I would call it "too big". It's doable. That's how I feel about it. That's a good explanation for it, I feel. It's doable.
Just give your friends some time. They need to know that he is a good guy for you and isn't just taking advantage of you. Over time they will learn to accept him more. The age gap isn't *that* big, to where it's unacceptable. They're just looking out for you. Once they see it's all good, they'll come around.
Depends. If things got serious and he wants a family, you may not be ready for that, but he is getting older and may not want to wait. Personally, my wife is almost 6 years younger and I would not dating anyone with even that much of an age gap next time. My problem was I was already established in a career and had some money while she was still in high school when we met. It took about 8 years before she was all done school and also became established in a career. This sorta put our lives on hold all this time in regards to buying a house or getting married.
Well if your friends think about it, you both are at a similar point in life and likely want the same things. I have this problem with my half-sisters every time I'm dating (or simply interested in) a girl their age (9 and 11 years between us). You go for what you want. So long as your boyfriend doesn't piss your friends off, they will hopefully mellow and get used to it.
I think you're fine. From what I'm reading about your guy, if you forget his age, YOU're fine with it. Do you know how he feels about it? In actuality, only you two should be concerned about the age difference.
The "math" that others have posted is just a general guide. It kinda sounds like he looks younger than his age (so do I, but I may or may not get into that later). I think as long as you two connect well and in the same "mindset phase" of life, that it shouldn't matter. Yes, I say SHOULDn't (those that know me know that I have reservations about this word). The fact that you're asking this at this stage of dating him is because you're considering of having a LTR with him. This is a good thing believe it or not (again, something I may or may not get into later).
While you value your friend's opinions, it is you TWO that are going to be in the relationship. I forget from 10 hours ago when I first read this (and others' comments) if your friends / parents have met him yet or not. Might I suggest if they haven't, that you hold off on telling them his age until either they specifically ask or on outing 3 with them? Point is that if you're having reservations about telling them his age, that may color their opinion of him. A person is more than just an age, a label, etc.
If your friends are really your friends, they'll voice their concerns in a reasonable manner when they find out his age. I've seen bigger shit than this be brought up and it's fine once it's discussed as adults in a calm and rational manner.
No the gaps not to big. I married my girl at 16 and the age gap was fourteen years. Your over thinking it. It natural for you to prefer an older man.
No I don't think so, my cousin is 32 and married to a 22 years old girl and they are a fantastic couple get along very well. Well maybe because the girl is mature enough too, she will finish her master degree both work and have an amazing relationship and life.
Oh my gosh! I am in the same situation! He is also 34 and I am 26. Honestly was surprised to know he was 34 because he didn't look it and he certainly did not make me feel it when we were together. All dates have been incredible too so I would like to know what people have to say regarding this question.
I guess at that age 12 years isn't so bad, he's probably just proud he got such a young girl and you might enjoy a mature guy. However, the younger you are the smaller the gap should be. Like you can't have a 12 year old and an 18 year old. But 18 and 24 seems ok to me.
I think it's quite large but doable, you're both adults.
I know a 16 yo girl and a 27 yo guy who are falling for each other now, that's too big of a gap I think. She feels like she's all grown up but she obviously lacks experience and he's known to break hearts, usually 3 at a time.
I think thats ok, as long as he's not 47-50yrs old.
Hun it's your relationship not theirs. They should be happy if your happy.