I'm a 22 yr old female. Recently met a lovely man we've enjoyed plenty of amazing dates. It's more than a sexual attraction our dates typically end up being all day dates with just us talking or hanging out. My only real concern about diving into a relationship is he is 34 so he's 12 years older. Do you think this age gap is too big? I forget about the age gap most of the time I spend with him but I know some of my friends find the age gap weird and it upsets me because he is slowly becoming important to me
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For males, the typically socially acceptable age range is half your age, + 7. So, for me, 26, it would be 20 years old. If I dated an 18 year old or 19 year old, people would start viewing it as a bit too large of an age gap. Not overly so. But it would receive a more negative feelings than dating a 20 year old.
For him, he's 34, so his socially acceptable age range would be a 24 year old. 22 isn't too much farther from that. So, you'll probably get a marginal amount of negative feelings about your relationship; but not a lot.
12 years is quite an age gap. My parents are 9 years apart, and I know a lot of peoples' parents who have been 5+ years apart. I don't know if I would call it "too big". It's doable. That's how I feel about it. That's a good explanation for it, I feel. It's doable.
Just give your friends some time. They need to know that he is a good guy for you and isn't just taking advantage of you. Over time they will learn to accept him more. The age gap isn't *that* big, to where it's unacceptable. They're just looking out for you. Once they see it's all good, they'll come around.1