Hi, I am 23 and am wondering if I am date-able or not.
Reasons Yes: - I don't like drugs/drinking... maybe a drink once a while, and get wasted once a year but thats it. - I think I am sweet, caring, I make girls go awwwwww - I would buy my girl things, flowers, go out, buy her food, - I would want to cuddle and watch Pixar movies with her - I would listen to her, be there for her - I would like to do romantic things with her like go for walks, dinners, maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic? - I am 6 foot 2 - Always Honest - Have stable job/income ( Good paying too)
I don't really know what else I can add here... That's about it... What do girls want?
Reasons No: - 23lbs overweight (according to BMI, but I do have a bit of a belly) - Inexperience ( Girls like experienced guys) - Shy and Awkward - It takes me a while to open up to someone - It takes me a while to be funny with someone - I hate my job, so I don't have pride in it - Have no real hobbies or passions - Lower Self esteem/confidence at times - Girl broke my heart already ( Got freindzoned because I hid my feelings but learned a lot) - I am serious about dating - Feel so lonely and really want someone
So does that make me undateable? Or Do I still have a chance and finding a sweet nice girl who loves me for who I am?
What? You're completely fine! But before you look for a girl, you need to work on your self esteem! You need to love yourself and be one with yourself before you can ever hope to find someone who loves you. That's the unmentioned, invisible number one rule. It's the most important rule. Look at any relationship. They don't work out if there's any insecurities with themselves. It might somehow still be sticking together and chugging along, but that doesn't mean that it's a good relationship. Besides, you come before anyone else! :) Besides, confidence is sexy! You need to come to the conclusion that you don't care too deeply about what people think. Once you become so strong like that, you will find people and people will find you. But first things first, love yourself for who you are :) explore the world a bit, find things that you like doing! Have fun! You hardly need to look, because people will be attracted to you and how interesting a person you are. :)
You don't sound "undatable"—I will say this, though. After all the guys with low self esteem I've dated, I don't really want to do it anymore. I want my partner to take care of himself so I can live my own life.