My friend & I are complete opposites (she's extroverted and I'm introverted- both to the extremes). When she likes someone, she doesn't invest as much alone thought about them or fantasies like I do. I also move much slower than she does. When she likes a guy, or dates him, she has to see and talk to him 24/7. She will call him all the time. When I'm into someone, I rarely contact them (once a week to not be overbearing or just because I don't feel the need to more) and I don't wish to spend 24/7 with them. I also spend a lot of time fantasizing about them. She says I make someone a part of my life before they are because I think about them so much instead of actually starting something with them. This is true. I love my daydreams and building things up in my head. I've been known to get crazy over guys before we date because 1) I am really good at reading people, and 2) I fantasize about them so they become a part of my daily life inside my head.
Do many introverts do this or am I psychotic? I've had a handful of guys talk to me online for only a few times and proclaim we have been talking forever or have something, and to me THAT is weird. But I admit, I get crazy crushes that almost make me into someone else when I like them.. before even making a move to be with them. It's almost as if I don't want my vision of them shattered.
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As an introvert myself I agree with your thoughts on this. In response to Owl95's comments below - I also have a constantly buzzing and rambling brain - my mind is constantly moving a mile a minute. I don't get out much as well, because I have always had difficulty connecting, getting along with people, and finding the good company that I crave - so I spend most of my time by myself, lost in my own mind/thoughts. I think way too much about things and over analyze things.
But - to answer your question - I believe introverts do love differently than extroverts. In my opinion, introverts are more careful with the way they speak/think around crushes or romantic interests; they think before they speak or talk with that individual. In the sense that they care about them and do not wish to offend them. This may appear to an extrovert as not being very talkative or being shy/quiet. But extroverts, also in my opinion, tend to be able to blurt things out, have conversations, and speak whatever comes to their mind without a second thought. This can be reflected in the way they show love.
Again, this is only my opinion.2
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I'm half intro-extro (I know, confusing), so I kinda switch back and forth between these two...
I'm actually kinda glad you posted to talk about this, because it's hard being both... They both have their advantages/disadvantages...
Intros seem like they're more into an emotional investment; I've gotten my heart broken over how much I think about a future together. Extros are more "in-the-moment", and can actually enjoy it while it's actually happening (though their enthusiasm might kill it early). Texting 24/7 is a major turn off to me, but I can flirt like an extrovert...
It kind of sucks, because people tend to be one or the other, don't they? If I act like an extro, I don't attract more introverted guys... and if I act like and intro, extro guys don't necessarily see my interest.
So you're not alone. The struggle is real, lol.1