Are you able to attract a lot of women/men initially but not in the long run in terms of a relationship?
I've been able to get lots of dates, hook ups, flings here and there. Some of it is voluntary but most of it is involuntary.
It's like I'll get the person interested initially but then after a date or a few, I never hear from them again.
Even though it's a double standard, even as a male, the quantity of women you get doesn't mean shit. I'd rather have fewer women where there's substance as opposed to a bunch of dates/encounters that lead to nothing.
Its just frustrating because I'll get told I'm cute, funny, etc by lots of people and it's like I'm in an endless cycle of dating someone until it ends and find someone new then repeat, which is "starting over".
What scares me is I don't know what I'm doing on my end that's causing the failure. And it isn't about being nice or entitled but generally if I don't see problems, I don't look for them and yet they still end.
I dont compare myself to others but I'm almost 27 and most people I know have had at least 1-2 long term relationships where I haven't had any. And I'm not desperate or trying to rush in a relationship but it's frustrating when you put yourself out there and have nothing to show for it.
Anyone else in the same boat?
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I can see where you're frustration is coming from here. I've yet to get into a long term relationship and it gets frustrating to constantly get excited when meeting someone new and getting attached to them and then the relationship doesn't work out.
My advice would be to talk with an ex to help you reflect on why your relationships are not lasting. And I'd suggest talking with someone who hopefully knows the kind of person you are rather than any one night stands. Even friends who are girls might be able to enlighten you on your situation.
If you are doing nothing wrong, then just keep rolling the dice and see what sticks. Your luck is bound to work out in your favor eventually.0
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