I have a terrible track record of dating so a few tips of where I'm going wrong would be helpful 😂
Most Helpful Guy
Don't try to "impress" your date.
At the end of the day, whether you're dating for fun, or just looking for companionship, or looking for something serious... it's probably not a good idea to make the foundation of your relationship based on something you have to actively try to maintain emotionally 24/7. That's a lot of work, and it's unsustainable.
Sooner or later, maybe 3-6 months down the road, one of you is going to get tired of trying to "impress" the other. When the "true/real" you comes out, it can only be negative. For starters, you are now properly labeled as fake and a liar. Even if the "true/real" you would have been someone your partner would have loved and totally been cool with, this isn't a Disney/Hallmark movie, this is real life. And in real life, people get pissed when they're lied to and you wasted their time, and basically got them to have a relationship with someone that never really existed.
I guess it goes for both guys and girls. Don't try to "impress" your date. Don't be on your "best" behavior. Be on your "normal/regular" behavior. If they don't feel the connection, then you just dodged a bullet, it would have ended badly anyway. You can take all that saved time and focus on other opportunities with someone who would totally feel that connection just based on the true/real you.
It sounds cheesy and cliche', but that's #1 on my list of suggestions.4
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Most Helpful Girl
Don't talk poorly of others - whether exes, friends, colleagues or family. Makes a person seem negative and/or bitchy.
Make sure you strike a balance between telling them about yourself and asking about them. Look for common interests or opinions.
Don't drink too much.
Don't expect them to drive the conversation the whole time. But also, don't dominate the conversation. Try to balance it.
If you go for dinner order what you actually want to eat and laugh it off if you get food on your face or something silly.2