I've heard this story a few times and it actually happened to myself too.
It can be a boy or girl, but I'll explain using the boy chasing the girl.
Boy meets a Girl, likes her... they are flirting... Girl seems really interested...
Boy asks girl out, but Girl gives him the run around
Boy finds out the Girl has a Boyfriend.
Now is it the "Boys" fault for not asking her straight up if she had a boyfriend?
Or is it the "Girls" Fault for not mentioning the Boyfriend?
The lesson I have learned if you are super into someone, ask them straight up if they are single. They can't runaway from that question, and if they lie... You will find out and realize they are not a good person.
My advice to people, if you think someone is interested in you or are talking to someone of the opposite sex... At least mention your S. O, so early on they will know to only accept friendship from you... and it doesn't become a case of leading someone on.
I have been beating myself up over this a lot, but maybe I shouldn't.
I thought it was my responsibility to ask, and because I didn't she never told me.
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No its not the guys fault for not asking her if she gas a boyfriend. When a guy asks a girl out and she is already paired off then she should have the sense to tell him that she is already taken. This is exactly what I mean when people go rushing into asking other out without knowing anything about them. I break the ice with men I'm interested in, I establish what I need to know about them just by having conversations with them. If you rush into it, they either ridicule you on the spot or they just use you thinking that they can have a bit on the side.1