What do you think? My sister is 18 dating a 27 year old man.
Most Helpful Guy
No, but really pushing it. I personally would go against beyond 10 years at the very very most, so I guess 9 is ok. 😕0
Most Helpful Girl
In my opinion your sister is way too young for him. The difference of the factors isn't just maturity level, but the life experiences as well. Your sister is barely a baby, just starting out as a young adult. The guy she is dating already had that chance 9 years ago. My mom and dad met when she was 19 and he was 28. My mom's side of the family's concerns were this:
-She had 2 sex partners plus my dad. My dad however had 41 + my mom which became 42/43.
-My dad was already a father, and a single one at that. My sister was 9 years old.
-She had a HS diploma. Just graduated high school in fact. My dad however had a middle school education, and dropped out at 11th grade.
-She had no job at the time. But my dad was already a city worker with at least 3 years in on the job.
-She was supposed to go to college, but ended up conceived with me within 6 months of dating.
You get my point? They both had conflicting views, values, belief's, faith, etc. And the wide age gap didn't help with their marriage. It was purely done out of lust, desperation, some form of love, but selfishness was sadly there as well. Immaturity was also a major issue with lack of structure. Both of them were not psychologically healthy, as they both grew up in broken homes. Though my mom had a healthy family living overall, as her's are about family. My dad's however were the everyday typical ghetto/hood mentality environment that was on & off. There were good times, and a lot of bad times. Few pros, but a heck of a lot of cons and red flags.
That may or may not be the case with your sister. But I will say for you as her sister to be more watchful of them, ask critical questions without getting too personal, and make sure she trends carefully. I cannot say yay or nay. But I highly suggest that she doesn't get too comfortable and look for red flags. She has to look at herself in the mirror first before she can take on this kind of relationship.0