Sorry in advance as this is a bit of a rant but here goes:
I see her every weekend at this acting club we both go to and we also snapchat 10-20 times a day. We've been good friends (at least) for a while now and I really like her, I constantly think about her, it brightens my day when I talk to her, she makes me smile/laugh and I make her laugh a lot as well and I just want to be with her.
I think apart from my crippling anxiety the main problem is the age difference. At any other age I wouldn't be worried but there is a certain stigma around overs dating minors. I am currently at college and am 17, she is at a private school and is 14 (she'll be 15 in a couple months). My friends know I talk to her and they know how old she is and constantly make pedophile jokes which has really affected me. hypothetically if we were to go out I would let her decide how slow/fast we take things ( it would be my first relationship so I wouldn't have a problem taking it slow). I'm not really interested about sex or anything along those lines, I just adore her personality and think she's amazing. I couldn't possibly tell if she flirts with me but it's safe to say we talk as much as close friends would at the least, even past like 1am a fair amount (which is unusual for me but I don't know about other people…). So yeah, I want to ask her out but I don't know if it would be suitable. I could really use some advice and any you may have would be greatly appreciated.
Yours sincerely, Tom.
Most Helpful Girl
I think that it would be okay to date her :) Just Because you're 3 years apart doesn't mean much, and your not planning on taking advantage of her. She may like your or just see you as a good friend. You seem like a good guy, and you both take interest in the same thing. I wish you luck! :D1
Most Helpful Guy
Where I live nobody would care. I've seen so many 18 year olds with 15 year olds, life goes on normally, they're happy and nobody really cares and neither actions are taken to stop it because... the damn difference is just 3 years and it's considered normal.
But this is the culture where I live, unfortunately you live in a place where it's considered a big deal. Too bad you might lose an opportunity because of such a small age gap. Think if it's really worth it and have in mind that only sex is forbidden.1