So I think I might be dating this guy? (Typical) In the past two months he's text me "good morning beautiful!" Every day, we've gone out for drinks a couple times, gotten breakfast, he spent my bday dinner with me, spent the night at my house just to cuddle, we've made out a few times and even hung out at his brothers house once.
His brother kept telling me he wasn't into me and was just trying to fuck. This upset me so I pulled him aside and asked him what his intentions were. He sat me down, said he really likes me and he's been trying to find the right time to tell me this, but he just found out he has a kid... He's stressed and doesn't sure what this means and how it's going to change his plans... I'm not sure if I should step back, give him space and let him work it out. Or if I should step in, be supportive and help him work through it.
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Umm... first of all, to the morons that keep saying someone is in it "just to fuck"... wth, fucking is gonna HAVE to be involved at some point. you can either do it now or later, thats what i say.
Now on to you. In my personal opinion, if i think something may be serious then i hear "Kid", im out. Not because of the person im with, but because of the OTHER person/people. Plus I don't the attention i want to be divided among two other people regardless of if one is a toddler. Then I've gotta listen to stories that have absolutely Nothing to do with me or us. I'd say pack up and leave.
But if you like him very much and wanna stay, some space is always nice to give.
Oh last thing, don't ever ask a guy what his intentions are, because 9.9 out of 10, its either a lie, or will become a lie. Most of the time, and this pertains to me as well, most guys don't know the answer to that question. And thats why i never answer it. Only people who are psychic or something should be able to answer that. Even if i know i like the girl, i don't know how things will be after a couple of years. Frankly, im surprise he didn't scram when you asked that after only 2 months. Most of the time, the "intentions" are the same, then there are factors like time, social life, work life, expectations, personality changes, etc and one day when the honeymoon phase fades, you will realize... oops.
Thats when the female morons go "oh, he only wanted me for sex"... bullshit lol
Im sorry i ranted all over your post, i was trying to be through and got irked.0