Right, I have been seeing this girl for a month now. The only problem is she is very closed off and distant unless she is drunk. We have slept together, and I have even met her friends. But when she is sober she doesn't show as much affection, and sometimes I feel that she doesn't want to even meet me and purposely makes excuses. I do know she has been hurt in the past by a guy who she was in love with a few years ago when he cheated on her. She told me she was insecure and she does really like me but didn't tell me what her insecurities are. Do I just ask her what they are? I really like this girl and I want to help her and show her that I am different from the guys she's had in the past and help her get rid of the insecurity. I just dont know how to do it. Advice?
Most Helpful Girl
insecure about what exactly?0
Most Helpful Guy
A woman the more failed relationship/exploit she has had will become emotionally closed off/baggage. Even if you do get her to open up many of her insecurities and shit test will sometimes be related to the past dicks that have been inside of her.
Women love is like a flame. It starts of bright and enthusiastic with the first man they love. As they get older and more failed relationship happen they get more jaded about love/relationship and build up mental baggage which they try to repress. Why do you think divorce rates are so high?
In short before i proceed to tell you how to get her to open up, are u content knowing she will never love you as much as a her ex (even if she fakes it) and you'll be dealing with her mental/emotional baggage as long as your in a relationship with her?
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