Some context; we've both come out of longterm relationships this year but I've dated more people than he has. We're both 27. He's really interested me, I've no doubt about that because he's said it several times and we've kissed a few times (not passionately though). He said the other day that he's shy when it comes to dating and that this all very new to him which I understand; I've been there! So I'm just asking for any tips on how to progress dating with him in a good way. He's slowly growing on me, and I don't mind going slow because I prefer to get know someone and form a bond. We've dated for 3 weeks and I've started to like him more and more. I've let him take the lead most of the time.
Most Helpful Guy
Take it super slow and be cautious which seems to be what you're doing. Everyone who gets out of a LTR relationship handles it differently but I dated a girl who got out of a 5 year relationship and even though she didn't really bring up the ex or complain about him, she acted hot and cold. She ended up ditching me after sex which hurt even though I wasn't trying to rush her into a relationship. I was being cautious and it still happened.
Has he mentioned the ex at all?0
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Most Helpful Girl
i can definitely relate to this guy, since i can remember what it was like to date again after ending a 7-year relationship.
my advice: take things slow. don't force him to assume a title or into a situation that might make him uncomfortable.
when it was me in your man's shoes, i told the guy that "i'm not your girlfriend/we are not exclusive". a few nights later, we ran into some of his friends at a bar, and he introduced me to them as "my friend von"; the fact that he respected my wishes assured me that he would be respectful in other ways too.0