My boyfriend of 2 years and I live together. I went to lunch with my male friend (who knows I have a bf). My boyfriend doesn't know as he is against me hanging out with any guys... to top it off he doesn't even know that we talk. Should I continue keeping this a secret?
Most Helpful Guy
1. You first need to address your motivation for having a guy friend. I have had platonic female friends so I understand that such things are possible. Still, you need to determine whether you are looking for friends or looking for more.
2. If you are just looking for friendship, then you are your boyfriend need to resolve this matter. This is an opportunity for you two to see how you handle the conflicts which will invariably arise in your relationship.
3. Sneaking around behind your boyfriend's back is a sign of significant disrespect to him. If you don't agree with his position, respond directly instead of sneaking around. This isn't like having sex with another guy but it is a betrayal in one sense.0
Most Helpful Girl
You are friends, you have done nothing wrong... other than keeping this a secret. You tell your boyfriend that you have a guy friend and then let him decide if he wants to stay or hit the road. Seems unreasonable that he won't let you hang out with guys in a platonic way... but then maybe i don't know the whole story. I just know that i will choose my friends, not my boyfriend and he needs to be ok with that, if he's not then sorry i'm not down for that level of control.0