I've been on an internet thing recently... my mind keeps figuring out ways to get ahead of all the technological advancements that are especially utilized by young people.
one thing occurred to me this afternoon:
Why ask for the number when you can easily get the snapchat?
Cons of the number:
-It raises her defenses: Who is this guy?
-It raises her insecurity: What does it say about me if I give my number that easily?
-It raises her boredom: Every guy always wants my number
Pros of the number:
-You can call/FT more easily than any app can do (well, not technically. Skype gives the clearest pitch)
-You can call/FT ANYTIME the phone is on
-The fact that you're at the level of texting and calling suggests you all are at a closer level of intimacy than apps (though this can be debated
Cons of Snapchat:
-She doesn't always have to have it on (Though she usually does)
-She may not have notifications on (I honestly have no clue if she does)
-You could possibly be seen as gay for liking snapchat so much you ask for that instead of the number
Pros of Snapchat:
-She'll almost always say YES (Even if she doesn't like you/ know you that well)
-Other guys might not be thinking of it, yet (Novelty Factor)
-More fun/dynamic than stilted texts back and forth
*** Final General Thoughts on Getting Ahead of The Pack
Important to note how important it is in general to be thinking about the future possibilities of everything. If something like snapchat truly is capable of "replacing the phone" then capitalizing on it early rather than when the masses migrate grants a huge advantage. It's like being the designer versus being the gamer for the nerds out there. An example could be those that jailbroke their iphones before iphone apps even officially came out. we had gameboy emulator and FREE roms--as many as we wanted that worked PERFECTLY.
Most Helpful Girl
I've had guys ask me for my snap before. it always resulted in getting then "send noodz" message much much faster than normal.
I'm also not that big into social media and i enjoy being around people who aren't always glued to their phones so when guys ask for my snap, i normally thing that
1. They're way too into social media
2. they're probably just looking for lewd pics
3. They aren't interested enough / dont care enough to ask for my number so they can make an actual connection with me
All 3 are a huge no no for me personally.
Most Helpful Guy
All this microanalysis is just irrelevant if the girl actually likes the guy.
You could be dealing with an insecure self-conscious virgin.. if she finds the guy hot and feels the connection with him.. all that insecurity, anxiety, and attachment and significance behind holding onto her V-card go away.
If you have to sit there and think, OMG what if this, what if that, what if etc. .. just move on to the next girl.. no matter how "worth it" her friends and family pat her on the back and say she is.. she's really not.
Everyone falls within a bell curve.. you're not going to find "perfect," you're only going to find "reasonably good enough." So, don't waste too much of anything trying to get someone religious to perhaps explore the idea that humans "Created the Creator," or a Democrat to explore the idea that "High spending and free shit isn't free, and "the RICH" don't pay for it.. the middle class do," or a Republican to explore the idea of letting go of their "Dog pack mentality.. stop criticizing "radical Islam" and yet adopting every radical ideology on abortion and guns that FOX NEWS feeds you."
At some point, you just have to say "fuck it," and move on with YOUR LIFE.
Again, all this microanalysis, it's interesting, but it's more hassle than it's even worth to think about (let alone implement).2