I met this girl 3 weeks ago. We didn't hang out until this past weekend and I made it blatantly clear that I was NOT looking to date her or get into anything serious. We spent 2 hrs at the end of the night making out in her car. (I told her before I kissed her that I didn't want her to overthink it).
The feeling isn't mutual, she fell head over heals... The next day texting I had to restate what I didn't want again. Then she pulled the friends with benefits card. I said okay, maybe, we'll play it by ear. I think that the clingy texting crap is going to continue though...
I'm going to a party this weekend and she'll be there. We kinda planned on making out while there. So "one last time" I'll give in. But I think she pulled the friends with benefits in hope that I'll come around, which I won't.
Kinda conflicted on this... part of me wants to drop it completely, the other, make out again ('cause it's been a while and I TOLD her that too). Think I'm getting in over my head...
So if you can understand that, girls, any advice? Guys, what would you do?
She texted me again earlier and I said again that friends with benefits don't work if 1 party has feelings. Told me she "pushed her feelings aside" and they aren't as strong as I think, she just likes to flirt. Don't really believe that being what she to me the other night... This whole ordeal got way too confusing too fast.
Either way, going to the party to have fun and maybe meet someone new and do my best to resist the temptation!
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I'm curious, why don't you want to be serious. Is it not wanting to be serious with her or just not being in the right place to be in a relationship.
In my opinion, she can only fall deeper for you, so I recommend you stop it if what you want doesn't align at all and there's no chance of it.0