Don't get me wrong I'm a very loyal guy, I try by best to keep a woman happy. I'll run to the edge of the earth for someone I care about. But I'm not a push over I'm very assertive take charge kinda guy) My thing is it never works out. My only relationship was in 9th grade I was cheated on. It lasted a mouth😂. I left love alone for seven years. Not because I was broken but because I always feared never being good enough for a woman. Once I tried dating agin I was friend-zoned, the second time I was used for temporary company and sex. There other girls that I've tried dating but I could tell there weren't interested. The two who would text and call me all the time I assumed were interested but they just want someone to fill a certain void in there lives. As of rn I'm to afraid of even trying agin my worst fear of not being good enough has come true and it's cause me more problems than I anyone would think. For instance i now have performance anxiety due to my fear becoming a reality. I even contemplate ending it all ok so depressed. Achieving my financial goals doesn't help, trying new things or going new places doesn't help. I really feel like my life is pointless. I've pushed everyone that close to me away. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
Most Helpful Girl
there's nothing wrong with wanting to give up on having a partner or a spouse. Not everybody is designed and built for marriage or relationships. Not everybody is built to be parents either. However the problem is that you've been having meaningless sex and you need to stop having premarital sex in the first place. This is why your in the rut your in. Everything has consequences. And you have been hanging around the wrong kind of people. Right now, you need a lot more time for yourself. Because you sound like your going through burn out. You've been so burnt by these women so much, your basically about to break. That's not good and very unhealthy.
Also stop with the performance anxiety mess. You don't need to cater sex to women outside of marriage. You know why sexual compatibility was invented? Whoever invented that crap of a name? To make people stupid, naive, selfish and confused. Its to hurt relationships and good marriages. And its to hurt people like you, who want to be somebody that people can count and rely on. But if this is so bad that you have pushed everyone alway from you. Then thats really not good. Your going to have to do two things. Either suck it up and move on from the past, or get serious professional help. And even with counseling. Unless you learn to have more confidence in yourself, and have a better purpose for your life. You won't get anywhere. Their there to hear you out and give you some point of direction. But its up to you to take sound advice.1
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Most Helpful Guy
Short answer YES! Never think this way about yourself because your mind controls everything. You are making it harder for yourself and allowing this depression and fear to take over your life. You have to gain your confidence back, trust yourself, and have some faith.
I understand that past events as stated by you have always been on your mind since but the thing is you are different now, this is years later and you have become a stronger man with more real life experience. Do what you enjoy most whether that's traveling, doing your job, discovering new things or ideas, or just watching some shows at home. Live happily, laugh, get excited, always think positive and your life will come back together before you know it. The less you think about this 💩 in your mind and how "bad" you are, the better off you are because you are not stupid nor deserve to live a sad life.
Go out, do your hobbies, find new interest, and most of all, make new friends! As time passes some of your female friends may turn into a more serious relationship as you get to know one another and you could be back in love without even planning on doing so. The whole point is, don't think so hard about these things because they happen NATURALLY so just go with the flow. I have faith in you, do you believe in yourself? Best of luck man 😎!1