We haven't met in person yet but we are from the same home town and thus I know him from down the grapevine. He's a small, introverted guy. We both are a ton alike. We've talked online overnight and hours on end. I know he's interested. I'm also an attractive female, which he has stated. I'm asked out weekly. Problem is, he has made plans with me twice now (not me initiating at all, it's all on him and him suggesting numerous activities) and then last minute both times he has cancelled. It has always been work related (he found out he worked the time we were to meet, or someone called in and he had to work). He works at a food place. I don't know if they are real, I don't have proof it isn't real, but part of me feels like this last time it wasn't real. I don't get why he'd go and ask me out and plan the entire night only to blow me off? I don't want to message him since he blew me off. But I'm like waiting for him to talk to me and reschedule or apologize further but I don't know. Do guys not think this is a big deal?
How do I act when a guy lets me down twice on plans we had? I don't want to appear clingy or obsessive, but I also don't want to be a pushover?
What Guys Said 3
Maybe he's just too nervous for the date and gets cold feet? Try talking to him about it. "Was the reason you cancelled really work or something else?" Or, maybe it is work? I would wait/see if he asks you out again and when he does, be honest and tell him. "you cancelled twice, are you going to cancel again?" "You need to stick to it this time, if you cancel this time, 3 strikes you're out" As far as "do guys not think it's a big deal?" it depends on the guy and your relationship. To some it's not, others it's a very big deal.1
If you're really asked out weekly, why even waste your time thinking about this? Just move on.2
He's probably trying to avoid meeting and is too chicken to just say it. Let him go and move on.1
What Girls Said 3
Hey might just be using you as a back up considering he hasn't even met you yet even though he keeps initiating it.0
Yeah canceling the last minute for twice in a row is not cool. I would confront him about it. Tell him it's inconsiderate and not cool. Tell him to ask you out when he knows he can make it. And tell him it's not going to happen between you two if this happens again next time. It's very rude and not acceptable.1
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