Is it possible for men to ONLY have eyes for one person?

[annalori]

Who don't look at other females not because they'd feel guilty but because legit nobody is attractive to them because they're so into their SO.
Is this real?

[pnl86]

Listen,

"Eyes" for only one person. No. That's not real. That's a female fantasy. We're not blind. We can still see. And when we look around and see an attractive pair of breasts, or butt, or face, or waist/hips, or stomach, or legs, or girl with some nice style going on, or girl with some nice moves, etc. going on, it's going to be processed by our brain to make sense of what our sensory system just picked up from our environment. The only way you're going to stop that is to blindfold a guy, and basically cut off the Internet, and lock him in the house until he dies. Ladies gotta chill.

Despite all that, can a guy still be loyal to just one girl? Yes. Despite all that constant bombardment of, "Dude, those girl's boobs are better, that girl's butt is better, that girl's face is better, that girl's hips/waist is better, that girl's legs are better, at least that girl knows what a diet is, at least that girl knows where the gym is, damn that girl knows how to be sexy, etc.," guys have the power to CHOOSE to voluntarily stay and remain loyal to just one (1) girl. They don't need to be guilt-tripped, publicly-shamed, or rewarded with praise or positive reinforcement for doing or not doing so. They do so because they WANT to.

Want to make sure your guy cheats on you, be like every other girl and don't trust him. When a guy feels like his girl trusts him, genuinely trusts him (not just some gimmick to manipulate him and see what he'll do), he enjoys that feeling. He enjoys the fact that he can interact with anyone and his girl knows that ain't shit going on. When a guy has that, he doesn't want to lose that.

As far as "eyes" for other girls, just because a girl "looks" good doesn't mean that he wants to "be with" her. He's not about to open up a new can of worms and reinvent the wheel as he gets to know someone knew on the "off chance" that maybe she's more amazing than the girl he's currently with. Even if another girl is cool and all, it's not worth giving up the history and experiences of going through life's journey together with his "partner." I mean, if a guy is just willing to discard that, then he's not thinking straight and clearly not ready for a relationship or a real "partner" in life yet.

[dissolute_dog]

Sometimes it is, because a guy may be so fixated on a girl that nobody else compares at that time.

However, I don't think this is the case for most people. An easier example to explain this would be actors that you like and find hot. When you get with your guy, do you suddenly look at your favorite actors on the big screen and think "meh" as long as you are with your guy? And then their movies become less attractive to watch? xD Maybe some people are like this, but that doesn't make sense for most people.

For most people, other people don't stop becoming visually attractive just because they fall in love with one person. What makes that person they love more special than all the rest is that they would hands-down choose that person and find them more desirable than all the others, not that other people are 100% undesirable.

This is why I don't necessarily find having eyes for one person the most romantic thing. It's easy to pick one person when all others seem crappy. It's more touching when lots of people are attractive, and yet they pick you over all the rest and think you are the most desirable over all of them.

[annalori]

That is a really nice way to look at it

[dissolute_dog]

Thank you. ^_^ And I don't mean to put down people who only have eyes for one person, or how romantic it is, haha. Different things work for different people. :) I just meant that I personally wouldn't have a problem with a partner finding other people good-looking, just as long as they would choose me and want me the most.

[XRabbitHeartX]

My boyfriend is very set on only wanting me and not looking at other girls or commenting on other girls. Whenever I joke about other girls probably checking him out he'll always respond negatively like saying "well fuck those girls cause I have you" for example. My boyfriend is not really the typical guy though (or at least in my experience) and has a LOT of respect for me and women in general. Like he doesn't even watch porn because he says he can't stand to see how women are treated like a piece of meat. When we watch series where women are naked he cringes and says he thinks that is special and sacred and that sex scenes cheapens sex and the idea of it. So yeah, I doubt many guys are like that or see it that way (my boyfriend wants to be a social worker so he's just more sensitive to things like that) and I think this could be why he treats me always like he only has eyes for me. He's just sensitive and respectful like that to me.

With all that said, everyone will see attractive people, whether taken or not. I see hot guys, and I'm sure my boyfriend sees hot girls all the time too. That does NOT mean that you fantasize about those people or think about it. It's like "oh there is an attractive person" and then you just go on with your life and never care about it again.

It's impossible to never ever find another person attractive. It is very well possible though to do so but still be respectful about it.

[candyaurora]

You are a very lucky girlfriend 😊

[XRabbitHeartX]

@candyaurora Yeah he's a gem and I'm not going to let go. I try my best to be a good girlfriend <3 :P

[candyaurora]

Glad to hear 😊

[SocialMayonnaise]

I doubt it. Unless your guy is head over heels infatuated with you - and even this probably won't last more than a year, which is when the feeling of commitment sets in - he probably does look at other girls, just as girls will look at other guys. But that's okay. When he's oggling another girl, chances are he's not thinking of marrying her - he's just imagining what her tits feel like. Basically he's not thinking of the girl herself, just her assets, and that's perfectly normal. It doesn't mean he's going to cheat.

Don't base your self worth on how often your guy looks at other females. It doesn't really say anything. But if he continually goes around openly gawping at them, ask him if he's caught any flies yet.

[btbc92]

Yes it very possible. A guy that was taught not to do that, and is completely attracted to you wouldn't care about other girls or women. They glance and then shake it off. How do you think some married men stay married for the long they have? Because they are not catering and smiling to every chick they see, unless out of common courtesy. The issue is some men and women want to seek some sort of attention from somebody, even when they are in relationships. I had gotten unwanted staring from guys on dates with their girls in front of them. I'm not even paying attention to them. But the girls give me nasty looks like I did something to them.

[bbch25]

That's what I'm like, I just do NOT notice other guys. My friend would point out this hot guy entering the cafe when we're hanging out and I look at him and it's like looking at my brother it's just "yeah cool whatever". I just don't see others. I can understand why someone else might find them attractive I guess, but I personally am not all "oh ma gerd, so hawt!"
And I'm sure there are guys who can do it, but it's not wrong either way, long as they aren't acting on it if they're with their one person.

[RJGraveyTrain]

No, I don't believe there are men or women who are like this that are normal, functional human beings.

Sexual attraction is rooted into our DNA for the sake of procreation, so unless you want to castrate a guy, he isn't going to be able to only find one woman on the planet attractive.

[ThatJarHead]

Of course it is. Love makes you blind.

[MrAtticusLebowski]

yeah it does. you only see what you want to see.

[ThatJarHead]

@MrAtticusLebowski and what you want to see is your partner

[Notorisch_Arschloch]

Absolutely. I've been there. Once. Now, I'm a militant misogynist asshole, but this one girl got me so I just didn't even give a half a fuck about any other chick, even ones who were more my type than she was (she was Mexican, dark hair/eyes. I like white, light hair/eyes).

Its not a big secret: surprise wake up blowjob, afternoon sex, surprise lunch break car head, shower shenanigans, bed time horizontal monkeyshines... Basically, she was always down, and if she wasn't in the mood, she just assumed I was and went down on me randomly.

That, and cooked. Seriously: balls empty, stomach full. A guy will spend his life breaking himself to be responsible for your happiness.

Or you can do what feminists will advise, call that awful, and tell men what they should want, and he'll merely make an effort to keep you from seeing him look for something better

[MrAtticusLebowski]

yeah, of course. It's up to you to be able to judge someones character and look for red flags when you enter a serious relationship.

Just reading all these girls story's on GaG in the last 3 years and it's shocking the GLARING red flags women ignore when they fall for a guy. Plus you're still young so most guys your age aren't ready to settle down.

[annalori]

My boyfriend is 24 lol I am very mature for my age. He is the definition of faithful and I know it's very rare to find. I wanted to see if other people were like this as well :)

[MrAtticusLebowski]

Well good, i also find i know more men at my age that really do only have eyes for their wife/GF. Also, "mature for my age" is irrelevant here. People don't really stop changing till there late-20's so your boyfriend is likely still evolving as a person.
I still can't believe the few people my age that all of sudden decide to leave their families and take up some light heroin use. You'd think people had matured by 29, not always the case.

[annalori]

O for sure! Sorry. Not mature for my age. But mature in general lol and I totally understand what you are saying. I've had my fair share of relationships and maturity is a huge thing that many guys lack. No matter what age. But I have also hear horror stories of women being shitty too.

[rjroy3]

Let's be clear on what it means.
"only have eyes for" means only interested in a specific person and in some cases only attracted to one person.

Yes it's possible for a guy to only be interested in one woman. And in the short term only be attracted to one woman, because of that euphoric haze that can come over you in a relationship that is new. I know for me if I really love a girl. Other girls cease to be options for me. Like I recognize the fact they are beautiful women. But they don't get me going. That spark is not there. Maybe that might be different if I was with a woman for 6, 7, 8 years or so. But my last relationship lasted 2 years and I can honestly say I didn't have eyes for anyone else but her. Other girls were attractive, but I wasn't gawking in excitement or anything. It was just like a plain "oh cool. A pretty girl"

[Brian-Brain]

I don't think this is a man thing. I think it is very human and healthy to still see other people. I also see man and women do this equally. Even the ones that say that they don't do this.

I understand that this is not exactly what you asked for. So I say it is next to impossible to find such a man. However I think what is more important to know is what importance this other woman has to that man. Most guys have completely forgotten about that other woman 30 seconds later. They also don't approach that woman. They don't love their wives/girlfriends any less. They don't cheat or wanna cheat. So is this really something to worry about?

There was an article about some research about this but I don't remember the link. It was an Interesting read that explains what i just said in a more scientific way.

[BuchitaBuchys]

It's probably not impossible but rare.

BUT WAIT! Don't freak out yet ladies! Him finding other women attractive doesn't negate YOUR beauty. There's more to relationships than looks. Don't be afraid or threatened because if you're truly in love, you're not going to be looking out for an "upgrade".

[ShortCircuit]

Eyes? No
Hearts? Yes

What I mean is that every straight man will notice an attractive girl when he sees one. What matters is how he reacts. He is only a quality partner worth being with if he disregards her completely and stays focused on you, rather than choosing to stare and indulge in his lust over her.

[Cg247]

erm.. well yeah, once when I was dating this girl, she chopped my eyes off and kept them. ever since, my eyes have been with her.

[annalori]

I love that thank you.

[MikeGaultier]

I was like that with my third to last ex. We had been together for 4 years. After 4 months of dating, I felt that she was the one. Never paid much attention to other women after that. There was one time when I was with a group of friends. They were rating all of the girls that walked by us. It was funny and innocent, but I couldn't bring myself to do it - many were absolutely gorgeous, but not in my eyes.

[annalori]

If you say they were gorgeous then you are just as bad as they are lol

[IceCubedude]

"as bad as they are " ? really? you have some growing up to do

[annalori]

Apparently you do too lol

[IceCubedude]

Did you figure that out on your own or your tattooe whispered it into your ear

[annalori]

My tattoo and I talk often so obviously it told me

[annalori]

My nose and lip piercing also helped 😉

[IceCubedude]

savage af i must admit, good job

[annalori]

Well isn't it obvious that tattoos make decisions for you? 😂

[MikeGaultier]

They were rating them in terms of how attractive they were and how good they would be in bed. I can admit when I believe a woman is attractive, just as easily as I can admit when I think a guy is good looking. Yes, some were gorgeous, but that doesn't imply that they were attractive.

[annalori]

I'm must be completely stupid. Because when something is gorgeous, it's attractive lol the two go hand in hand. INFACT implying they were gorgeous is even MORE generous than saying they're just 'attractive'

[MikeGaultier]

I think you may want to look up what the idiom "Having eyes for one person" actually means. It has less to do with viewing a person as attractive, and more to do with loyalty towards and respect for that person.

[IceCubedude]

are you really mad and angry that men can still notice another beautiful woman when they have gfs? I don't know if i should take you seriously or what, i mean there are 7 billion people iam sorry but a lot of the girls i see on daily basis are much more attractive than you , it doesn't mean your boyfriend is going to sleep with them or dump you it just means theyre more attractive and you can do nothing about it.

[annalori]

Sweetheart I'm sure you are no looker either. I'm good with myself trust me. I obviously don't have it hard in that department. But everyone has their own taste lol and no. Eyes are eyes in general. From looking to flirting. What the fuck do you think you do with your eyes lol

[annalori]

And yes I am mad/angry INCASE your small mind was wondering. Mad and angry that guys with girlfriends check me out and try to talk to me all the time when they have a girlfriend. I think it is completely disrespectful and I would t wish for any lucky ladies to date your close minded asses 😂

[IceCubedude]

you can be sure of whatever you want facts are facts, and you dont know how i look like but i do know how you look like and you trashy no offense, i get lots of attention from girls, and thats all you need to know.

[IceCubedude]

guys hit on you because you look easy and are probably easy as well, you're no girlfriend material you're a ONS at most, guys can sense that and will hit on you to get that from you, now you can convince me how good of a girl you are and how volunteer at an animal shelter and you never had sex or even looked at a guy because you're shy, but i am not buying it.

[annalori]

K what😂😂 an animal shelter? Lol what the fuck are oh talking about lol and I look easy because you don't like tattoos? (They told me that btw)

[annalori]

You're hilarious tho 😂😂

[annalori]

And I don't work at an animal shelter, I am a nurse lol

[annalori]

And I have obviously had sex LOL!! And I am not shy at all actually, I clearly have my own opinions and outlooks because If I didn't, I wouldn't think about how stupid you sound right now lol

[IceCubedude]

no its not because i dont like tattooes, some looks make girls look easy and sense 9 out 10 turn out easy its not hard to see where this stereotype comes from, some guys will fk around even while having gfs and will choose easy girls for doing that, now your style doesn't exactly scream classy.

as for me, i had plenty of attractive girl take na interest in me, eye me, hold eye contact, smile at me and basically do whatever they can to make me approach them and say hi, but i never did it since they usually end up taken and i dont ruin relationships, you say guys hit on you even when they have gfs, well girls flirt with me despite having bfs, i think we can agree that some shitty people do exist.

[annalori]

My life style? I don't remember waking up to you every morning and making you breakfast, going to work, come home and clean, and then make you supper ever day? Thats really weird😂 (I only hit the corners on Sundays, but I'm not cheap I tell ya!) and hey that's so nice of you that you don't wanna help them cheat 😂😂 I think these attractive girls who flirt with you and have boyfriends are actually the sluts. So sounds like to me you just attract sluts. I'm sorry for that. Lol I myself am quite repulsed by you lol

[annalori]

You on the other hand, seem like one deadly dude tho! I mean, you are negative as hell, talk about how o so attractive you are but are too self-consous to have a picture of yourself, you pick people apart, and make VERY uneducated assumptions about people. No, just because someone has black hair and tattoos DOES NOT mean they are raging headbangers. And no my dad was not in the hells angles. (I actually prefer country music and I'm scared of motercycles believe it or not) You're defensive and very angry. I'm sorry you have never been loved like that or have never loved someone so deeply you feel the way I stated in my question, but I really hope you find it. It will honestly make your life a lot better. And by the way, my tats are sick af 😂✌🏻

[IceCubedude]

i never said life style i said style as in what u wear, maybe these gurls are sluts who knows but they are super hot so thats always nice. as for my ptofile pic... yeah not a fan of showing people who i am in a place where i dont know anyone, just not a fan of that. point is u look slutty abd guys treat u like one and u admitted yourself so iam done here, good luck.

[annalori]

Awe did I say something you didn't like? I'm sorry I made you look dumb. And Hunny I am the LUCKIEST girl In the fuckin world. You literally tried to tell me how my life goes because of the way I look. Believe it or not, I'm all country sweetheart. And I'm very content with the way I look lol but you need to stick to one opinion. And yea right or it's because you don't want anyone to see who the keyboard hero really is cause I guarantee nobody would be surprised. Lol And alright. You attract those types of women while myself, along with many other LOVELY ladies will continue to unnotice you (because that's probably what usually happens to you) and continue to love our boyfriends and laugh in your face while you try to flirt with a taken lady. You goof.

[annalori]

No don't go. This is too good 😂

[annalori]

And please take a guess as to what I am wearing in that picture! Are they sweats, are they jeans? Who knows!! 😂😂😂😂

[IceCubedude]

socks

[annalori]

Actually, I don't like socks 🤔 again with your assumptions!! Lol and hey if you ever did get someone by your looks, you sure as hell ain't gunna keep me with your personality.

[IceCubedude]

my personality is rather decent thank you, i did get girls by my looks yes and i have plenty of girls around me who i can easily date iam just not interested in them i am picky and i haven't found what i want yet, girls absolutly like my personality, the say iam good looking, smart, funny, good at school, can be serious, cool and dont care much about what peopel want so i do what i want , as much as it sounds surpirsing to you being a little bold and a dick sometimes does bring results with girls they like the boldness and a man who knows what he wants, you do too, just look at the guys you've dated or the guys you like now, what's attracting you to them besides them being good looking and funny? they are careless and dont take peopel into consideration when they say or do something.

[annalori]

You're an idiot 😂😂😂 all sounds like a bunch of pussy bullshit to me. You're not picky. You just can't keep a relationship from the moment you open your mouth lmao I personally look for someone much much more than what you're willing to bring to the table 😂😂

[IceCubedude]

iam not looking for sluts therefore no worries there you will never even be on my list

[annalori]

Don't worry sunshine, I wouldn't possibly wish for anyone to talk to you 🤔

[madhatters4]

people are always going to find people attractive. it's unrealistic to think that just because a person is in a relationship they suddenly stop finding people attractive or unattractive

but they can have eyes only for one person in the sense that even if they find a person attractive they don't do anything about it

[mikemx55]

Hmmm, that doesn't make much sense. If the attraction you talk is only visual (because when men look at other people they don't know, they can't see personalities), that means that if he saw somebody that was very very similar to his SO, they wouldn't be attracted at all.
If you're solely talking about looks, I think people will always look at each other.

If you mean to actually think of pursuing or desiring them, I think that's a completely different story other than just looking.

[Anonymous]

I've seen some. One guy I know is amazing, girls love him. He's extremely handsome, perfect body, good career... he only cares about his fiancé. Doesn't look at anybody else and girls throw themselves at him at times and he just feels disgusted at the way they behave, not flattered or slightly tempted.

[Djaaaaay]

Opinion owner. Nice. !!! Thought for a min , you were talking about me.. ... my true way right there. 😊

[Opinion Owner]

@Djaaaaay good guy! Not just your woman, but others who know you are lucky. It's very rare to see people with good morals these days.

[Ripper_E]

No that does not exist. Yes, there could be a man that only has eyes for one person, meaning there is someone he holds special above everyone else and no matter how many other women come along, she will always be most special to him.

However, to say a man is only attracted to one woman is ridiculous. Doesn't mean they care or even act on it, but unless they close their eyes, that's not going to happen.

[AhGojira]

Half the people on Earth are women. We're going to deal with them every day and see their butts in tight clothing and boobs hanging out all over the place. Women are going to try to flirt with us even in front of you even if we are married, because women do that... Women will get looks because most of them are out there doing things to seek attention... That doesn't mean a man can't or won't be faithful to a person that is good to him.

[Kaazsz]

No, and any guy who says otherwise is lying in hopes that you will like him for it.

[Kaazsz]

Honestly stuff like this is becoming a dealbreaker for me. When women expect men to be women. So women can be in a relationship for 100 years and never find another man attractive. No man can be in a relationship that long without eventually noticing other women and seeing that they are attractive. Maybe it takes a month, or a year for the initial honeymoon stage to wear off. But all men are going to look at other women. The fact that women want men to NOT look at other women is a red flag for me. She doesn't want a man, she wants a woman with a mans body.

[Brokenheartedx]

Yes in life people will only have 1 soul mate- unfortunately finding that mutual soul mate is not common... there's 7 billion people on the planet and as they say there's someone out there for everyone but humans are to lazy to go search their equal partner...

[Streamhopper]

I suppose I'm like that, but I'm weird. My girlfriend and I are in a LDR. I work around lots of pretty girls. But I really care so much for my girlfriend I'd never even think of looking at someone else, no matter how far away she is (500 miles, if you're curious).

[TiffyPuff]

Maybe during the honeymoon phase, but realistically, no. It's a bit absurd to think anyone would. No one is so amazing that they can captivate someone so intensely, barring mental illness.

[annalori]

I would have to disagree. I am more than captivated by my boyfriend :)

[AngelDenna]

Yes and no at the same time because i have seen married men look at other womens asses when they open the door or something for them it is wrong on so many levels. Yes because there are some guys out there that will only have eyes for the person they are with and not worry about any ther girls