why are so many cute guys assholes? -.- im obviously only talking from my own experiences, and not the male population as a whole, but its so frustrating
I dont really date that much, but i do get approached by guys and 99% of them are guys im not necessarly that attracted to, or i am attracted to them and they have no intentions of going on dates. Its just frustrating... The only reason im not really swearing off dating is because of my male roomies and my male friend. They are all nice, funny , repspectful and treat me like a normal human being.
I guess its my own fault for even having expections towards guys and dating. In my case it seems like i have to chose between looks and personality. Im not saying that guys who dont want to date me dont have good personalities or that the less attractive guys are ugly, but just the way many of them approach me is creepy and very juvenile.
Most Helpful Guy
"The only reason im not really swearing off dating is because of my male roomies and my male friend. They are all nice, funny , repspectful and treat me like a normal human being."
They probably aren't attracted to you, that's why.
As for guys in general. If you're an average looking girl with an average personality, you're not going to attract the perfect 10 of your dreams. You probably won't even get a 7-8 realistically. You need to be something exceptional to attract something exceptional.
and the "Why are so many cute guys assholes" thing. You wanna know a secret? Most of them aren't, they just are to you because they don't care about you. Women often times think when a guy isn't nice to them that he's an asshole, because most men are nice to women. If a guy doesn't go out of his way for you, he's simply not interested in you, he isn't an asshole.1
Most Helpful Girl
Who said anything about looking average? You need to realize that all of this is subjective. Who's attractive to you may not be attractive to somebody else. You may be more attractive than somebody else, and somebody may be more attractive than you. That is just how life works. There really is no rules about looks and personality except the rules we make for ourselves regarding who we like and the person we want to mate with. Looks really shouldn't be all that important on the list, but the bottom of that list. Personality is good, but character is key. How a person treats other people is a reflection of how they could possibly treat you. You have to have balance of everything. From a persons views, faith, religion [if any], wither or not they believe in God, mature or immature, familial background, and especially their views about family, love, sex and marriage. All of that must come first and looks, as I said before must come last.
However no everybody will share your views and way of thinking. The point is superficial relationships with shallow people never last.1