so recently i have decided to change myself and refuse to let myself get thrown in the friend zone. so when I meet a girl I like I am up front about it and ask her on a date. no telling her I wanna be friends, just straight out saying I want a date with you.
however it hasn't been working? I've asked 5 women I wanted a date with them straight up after meeting them and 2 said no while the other 3 gave me their number but essentially never texted me back. I get they were just being nice to not reject me in my face. but it was still annoying to thought she liked me but not really.
so what am I doing wrong? I thought women wanted a more direct guy to approach them? no bullshit. I haven't given up but maybe a few pointers would help make the next one successful.
Most Helpful Girl
Could be a matter of attraction, or you are jumping the gun too quick. Get their number first, chat once, then try asking. A lot of women are quick to reject due to past experiences so it's good to give them a reason to be interested first.4
Most Helpful Guy
Hey man, I know the feeling. Direct comes off strange to me its like a foreign concept to me. Like to be dangerous doing... but then again im passive and should be more direct, a good friend informed me of that. The issue I have trying it. To me in my head it's like walking down a street not knowing anybody see a nice looking girl, and saying hello (minute you do, she's evaluating you asking herself while you're rambling not paying a bit of attention to what you're saying wondering what's he want, why's he talking to me etc). VS a passive approach makes more sense to me, in time you know the person have more background and put somebody on the spot, warm up to the idea of you will. That way at least you can see it coming if she hits you with harassment, hence with direct you will have no idea if you've crossed it or not, does it make sense?1