there's this guy I like , we are so close and we decided to be friends with benefits , today was like our second round , first time when we hooked up he told me he had feelings for me and the other day he denied it, today we hanged out with a bunch of friends and decided that we want to be like this, do you think its a good chance to be turned into a relationship? What are the advantages and disadvantages of friends with benefits?
Most Helpful Guy
I can't say that it *never* happens, because exceptions DO exist, but the vast, VAST majority of the time, it will NOT happen.
A lot of girls think (or act like) friends with benefits is a stop on the road to a relationship - an intermediate destination. Most guys see a relationship and friends with benefits as two completely different destinations - like France and Hawaii - and there's no road that connects the two; they're in completely different hemispheres.
In fact, most of the time, being friends with benefits makes it LESS likely that a relationship will happen, because once a guy is already getting sex, UNLESS he has strong romantic feelings for the girl from the beginning, then he's already getting every benefit without most of the liabilities, expectations, and restrictions that come with a relationship.
So, for a guy, going from friends with benefits to a relationship is like asking someone making tax-free money to voluntarily pay 40% taxes to pay for things that will not be of any direct benefit to him. Very, very few guys will choose to do that - UNLESS, again, he had strong romantic feelings for the girl from the very beginning.0
Most Helpful Girl
hi, hunny i think the only ones capable of friends with benefits are the male variety and yes they can have feelings for you and care about you and talk with you and act almost like a boyfriend only difference is the clause is, THEY ARE NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND and therefore free to do whatever they want with whom they want... simples... xx2