I've heard of this rubber band effect where guys taking a step back and disconnecting communication or contact with a girl to regain their manhood or their freedom and then bounce back into it. Does this really happen? From a girl's point of view it seems like he's ghosting but what about from a guy's point of view?
Most Helpful Guy
Think of a relationship like an emotional marathon. Girls have grown up their entire lives being told it is ok to feel, most guy experienced the opposite. Naturally this training means that girls can run the emotional marathon and guys need to take a breath out of their inhaler and rest a minute. The effect is real. Let him go and sit on a bench awhile. He’ll come back to you, or he won’t. But trying to force him to talk to you is a sure fire way to get him to decide he never wants to run a marathon with you ever again because fuck blisters. People need privacy as much as they need intimacy. It’s not really having anything to do with manhood at all. Another thing that guys do is test the waters for cling wrap. That is, by stepping back and taking a minute to look they can see how attached you are to them. There is nothing wrong with not being as attached as they are, but most guys have experienced some serious blowups with girls who are way more attached than they are. Relax, take a breath. You may realize that running the marathon in segments has advantages for you too.0
Most Helpful Girl
women do this too, but in either case its just poor behavior. the reason does not justify the behavior. if a person cares and respects you they will tell you they need space. not disappear. disappearing is disappearing and its the behavior of a coward or a brat and should not be encouraged by coming up with pseudo psychological revelations. you're just teaching people to continue to have no accountability for poor behavior.
people can have space of they want space but its up to you to decide what kind of person you wan to be with. if you blame disrespectful behavior on a persons sex, you will always expect it and never find better.
I've done what you write of for the reasons you write of. and i apologized heavy for it later on. bc its wrong. our emotions can not be an excuse to treat others badly. as adults we have to consider ourselves and others. an adult who yes 'ghosts' you is not mature and not ready for relationship.1