Hello there, there's a girl in one of the classes that we have in common that I am highly attracted to.
So far, I've asked her out twice and did not get any positive feedback from her. By that, I mean she gives priority to other things. For example, last time I asked her out she told me that she will prefer that there are more people around and that she came up with a plan with her friends which by the way is true.
I am highly attracted to her so is it ok to keep asking her out or should I give up and move on?
Hoping to read more of your thoughts :)
Most Helpful Girl
No, because she probably feels like you're obsessed with her, and it even sounds like it. Doesn't matter if you're both in college or not. There are other women. If she's not interested, leave her alone. The endless attempts are pathetic in my honest opinion. Being 'highly attracted' doesn't give you the right to harass her every chance you get.6
Most Helpful Guy
At best you'll be seen as someone she settles for and this will only happen under the following conditions:
1. She was pump and dumped by Chad
2. She is not nearly as attractive as she wants was and now needs a "nice guy" for validation/positive attention to pick her off her feet until she feels confident again.
3. Your value improves as a provider potential (aka money) and she is with you for financial security. This will only happen if she is in bad state in life and needs a retirement plan.
Rule of Dating: Dating is based on value. She perceives you as lower value than her. Hence, why she rejected your first attempt to ask her out. She would not have done this with a male she found attractive even if she was busy. And if there was no way to reschedule she would have given a follow up date and show interest to contact you.
So with each attempt you try to get her to go out, your value just keeps dropping further and further and your moving away from being seen as a love interest to an obsessive stalker at best.
Currently you are friendzoned. Watch the video below on how to move on and improve your chances with the next girl.
Remember women as a gender do not care about personality/moral/values or any of that shit. They care about 3 things: 1. Looks, money, and social status.
As a man you can improve your value in these 3 areas by making money, networking and getting to know people, and improving your look by hitting the gym so the next girl you meet you have a better shot of her taking you serious.
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